What Does Not Turn Women On That You Think Does!

I am writing this blog because it has come to my attention that there are some basics that a lot of men just don't know about or don't understand.  While I would like to think most men get the basics, I am reminded daily by women who mail me and prove me wrong.  This blog post is dedicated to these frustrated women.

1. First let me state, women for the most part are not visually stimulated.  I know a lot of men don't grasp this because there are a lot of texts out there that men have sent with pictures of their penis.  I had a guy email me that he was doing this to turn his girlfriend on and just didn't get why she didn't respond.  A picture of a Vagina or a hot naked girl may get you going, but a penis picture just doesn't do it for us.  We don't care how big or magnificent it is.  We know you adore it, but we just want to feel it work, not gaze upon it.

2. That brings me to penis worship.  There are some of you that think of your Penis as an individual bordering on Devine.  There are guys out there that even ask us to acknowledge their penis accordingly.  In other words, they actually say things like "Aren't you doing to say hey to Mr. Woody?"  Seriously, you think we want to talk to your penis?

3.  Pushing on our heads, pushing us down.  This drives most of us crazy.  We know you love a blow job, and most of us are more than willing.  We would rather do it at our pace though.  Being pushed down just feels yuck is the only way I can describe it.  If you do this often, I bet your woman is rarely in the mood.  The pushing makes us think it's all about you.  Consider telling her what you want instead.

4.  Groping or grabbing on us.  You know how you walk up to us and squeeze our breasts or grab our ass.  It's not a turn on.  Yes it can be playful, but most women just don't like it, at all.  A playful slap on the ass sure, but all that groping while we are busy doing something else can be annoying.  We don't want to be in the men's locker room, really we don't.

5.  Locking ankles behind ears is not a turn on for most women.  It goes back to the visual thing again.  We understand you like the view.  The fact is, most women are not at ease with their bodies.  When in this position, they don't feel very attractive.  They are not thinking of how good it feels.  They are thinking how fat they look with their belly pushed up like that.

6.  Poor hygiene.  This one is huge.  Little things turn women off.  I had one woman mail me about her hot boyfriend.  He was a stud in her eyes, until she saw an accumulation of wax in his ear.  She could not bring herself to have sex with him.  Sure he could have just had an ear infection, but the damage was done.  You body scent and breath are important too.  A little sweat is ok, but if you haven't bathed in days, we can smell it.  Bad breath is also a big turnoff.  While I love a hard working rugged man, I don't really want him in my bed until he bathes.

7.  No foreplay.  I am amazed at the frustrated women who complain about this.  Countless complaints here.  Some men go straight for the sweet spot with no warm up.  If it's not wet, it can actually hurt or be very uncomfortable.  Then there is the man that thinks because it's wet, it's time to insert the penis.  We love foreplay, don't skimp on this.

8.  Telling us when to cum or asking us are we cumming or asking did we cum.  The pressure that puts on us.  Most of us can't cum on command.  If you want us to come on command, I suggest you look into David Shade's program, Erotic Hypnosis.  It works and could be fun.  Otherwise, forget it.  Don't pressure us to orgasm, it's a sure way to make sure we don't.

9.  Breasts.  All women differ hear.  Some like them to be caressed softly, some like them to be handled roughly.  Some like them licked, some like them sucked.  If you suck on a woman who prefers licking, you will turn her completely off. Don't assume that your current woman likes what your previous woman does.  Ask her, find out how she likes to be touched.

10.  All women are different.  Going at your woman with what worked on the last one is not wise.  Take the time to find out what she likes.  Pay attention.  She gives off clues if she isn't comfortable yet telling you what she likes.  Listen to her breathing.  Watch her complexion.  If you could feel or hear her heartbeat, that tells you when she is about to climax.  It gets very rapid.  Not all of the above things turn all women off, just most.  We are all unique.  Learn our bodies individually and you will have a happy woman.

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What is Good Foreplay?

I am amazed at the number of men who really don't understand what good foreplay actually is.  Men often think of good foreplay as being able to get a woman ready for sex or penetration.  Foreplay is much more than this.  Foreplay is about turning her on and I mean really turning her on before any sexual act has even began.

If you think things such as touching the breasts or licking them is foreplay, you are slightly mistaken.  If you think rubbing her clitoris or licking her clitoris is foreplay again you are mistaken.  These are actually part of the sex act itself and not considered foreplay. Foreplay in my opinion leads up to these things.  It is not these things. 

How many of you jump in bed with your woman and you both get naked and you go straight for her intimate parts, touching, rubbing, licking etc...?  I would bet the number is astounding to be honest because most women, myself included say this is the normal.  Some men will take enough time to bring her to her first orgasm this way, but many get her wet, then move to intercourse.  So sad.  So frustrating.  So much missed pleasure for her.

If you have done your part and given good foreplay, your partner will be longing for you to touch her in these places.  She will be soaking wet before you ever even touch her most intimate parts.  Sure you can go straight for these parts and it feels good....eventually.  Note:  it is very uncomfortable for a woman when a man rubs her clitoris before she is ready for it.  It won't bring her to orgasm any quicker, it still going to take about the same amount of time.  She isn't built like a man.  Men usually go from contact to orgasm much quicker than women. 

Good foreplay involves lots of touching of her other parts.  Experiment, listen to her breathing and pay attention as you do this.  Women have many turn on zones.  No two women are the same.  Some like a soft touch, some like it more rough.  Find out what she likes.  Do more of this before you move in for the kill.  Teasing is Divine.  When you touch a woman in other areas she begins to get aroused and longs for you to touch her more intimately.  Then when you do, it's mind blowing for her. 

Think of when you are really really turned on.  You feel like you could explode.  Good foreplay will have your woman feeling like this before you have even ventured into these zones with her.  Good foreplay makes her feel like if you would just touch her there, she would explode.  Sex with a really really turned on woman will blow your mind so take the time to learn exactly what good foreplay is. It may not be what you think it is.

10 Things That Don't Turn Women On

I am writing this blog because it has come to my attention that there are some basics that a lot of men just don't know about or don't understand.  While I would like to think most men get the basics, I am reminded daily by women who mail me and prove me wrong.  This blog post is dedicated to these frustrated women.

1. First let me state, women for the most part are not visually stimulated.  I know a lot of men don't grasp this because there are a lot of texts out there that men have sent with pictures of their penis.  I had a guy email me that he was doing this to turn his girlfriend on and just didn't get why she didn't respond.  A picture of a Vagina or a hot naked girl may get you going, but a penis picture just doesn't do it for us.  We don't care how big or magnificent it is.  We know you adore it, but we just want to feel it work, not gaze upon it.

2. That brings me to penis worship.  There are some of you that think of your Penis as an individual bordering on Devine.  There are guys out there that even ask us to acknowledge their penis accordingly.  In other words, they actually say things like "Aren't you doing to say hey to Mr. Woody?"  Seriously, you think we want to talk to your penis?

3.  Pushing on our heads, pushing us down.  This drives most of us crazy.  We know you love a blow job, and most of us are more than willing.  We would rather do it at our pace though.  Being pushed down just feels yuck is the only way I can describe it.  If you do this often, I bet your woman is rarely in the mood.  The pushing makes us think it's all about you.  Consider telling her what you want instead.

4.  Groping or grabbing on us.  You know how you walk up to us and squeeze our breasts or grab our ass.  It's not a turn on.  Yes it can be playful, but most women just don't like it, at all.  A playful slap on the ass sure, but all that groping while we are busy doing something else can be annoying.  We don't want to be in the men's locker room, really we don't.

5.  Locking ankles behind ears is not a turn on for most women.  It goes back to the visual thing again.  We understand you like the view.  The fact is, most women are not at ease with their bodies.  When in this position, they don't feel very attractive.  They are not thinking of how good it feels.  They are thinking how fat they look with their belly pushed up like that.

6.  Poor hygiene.  This one is huge.  Little things turn women off.  I had one woman mail me about her hot boyfriend.  He was a stud in her eyes, until she saw an accumulation of wax in his ear.  She could not bring herself to have sex with him.  Sure he could have just had an ear infection, but the damage was done.  You body scent and breath are important too.  A little sweat is ok, but if you haven't bathed in days, we can smell it.  Bad breath is also a big turnoff.  While I love a hard working rugged man, I don't really want him in my bed until he bathes.

7.  No foreplay.  I am amazed at the frustrated women who complain about this.  Countless complaints here.  Some men go straight for the sweet spot with no warm up.  If it's not wet, it can actually hurt or be very uncomfortable.  Then there is the man that thinks because it's wet, it's time to insert the penis.  We love foreplay, don't skimp on this.

8.  Telling us when to cum or asking us are we cumming or asking did we cum.  The pressure that puts on us.  Most of us can't cum on command.  If you want us to come on command, I suggest you look into David Shade's program, Erotic Hypnosis.  It works and could be fun.  Otherwise, forget it.  Don't pressure us to orgasm, it's a sure way to make sure we don't.

9.  Breasts.  All women differ hear.  Some like them to be caressed softly, some like them to be handled roughly.  Some like them licked, some like them sucked.  If you suck on a woman who prefers licking, you will turn her completely off. Don't assume that your current woman likes what your previous woman does.  Ask her, find out how she likes to be touched.

10.  When a woman says no she means no.  A lot of men act like they don't hear her.  He makes his move and she turns him down, yet he keeps trying. He continues to make verbal hints or continues to attempt to fondle her. When she says no, respect this. It's just annoying when you won't take no for an answer. Worse if you cop an attitude or complain because you aren't going to get any.  Do you really not care if she wants to or not?  

All women are different.  Going at your woman with what worked on the last one is not wise.  Take the time to find out what she likes.  Pay attention.  She gives off clues if she isn't comfortable yet telling you what she likes.  Listen to her breathing.  Watch her complexion.  If you could feel or hear her heartbeat, that tells you when she is about to climax.  It gets very rapid.  Not all of the above things turn all women off, just most.  We are all unique.  Learn our bodies individually and you will have a happy woman.

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The Big Mistake Good Men Often Make in Bed

There are a lot of good men out there.  They sincerely care if their partner gets pleasure from sex.  They learn what works on their woman and they make sure they do it to bring her to orgasm.  This is a good thing right?  Yes, of course, but and there is a but, not if it becomes the way you go about sex each and every time.  I call it the race to orgasm. 

I know a lot of good men who complain that their woman is rarely in the mood for sex.  Could that be because she feels the pressure of having that orgasm.  Let me see if I can explain.  The most obvious is that the sex may be too predictable and she is bored.  The less obvious is the pressure feeling.  In other words, when a man knows what works and he enters the bedroom with the intentions of doing this, she feels pressure to cum.  The sexual experience starts out in her mind as she knows exactly what he is going to do, and she knows he is doing it to get to the end result.  Her orgasm, then he goes on to get his.  This kind of sex is usually over in a few minutes. 

Most men already know that sex for a woman starts in the mind.  They don't all unfortunately understand how complex this is.  Women suffer from performance anxiety in an entirely different way than men do.  Men strive to bring women to orgasm while women strive to orgasm for their men.  This is a huge pressure on women, especially since a lot of women just don't reach orgasm that easily.  Going into the bedroom with this in her mind is enough to create a trigger in her that causes her to not be in the mood.  It's can create a sense of dread. 

So that is where a lot of good men make a big mistake in bed. They unknowingly put the pressure on a woman to perform.  How many men out there desire a screamer in bed?  A lot.  The screamer strokes his ego and makes him feel he is doing a good job.  Women are under more pressure than a lot of men realize in bed.  When women focus on trying to achieve orgasm it often has the reverse effect. 

A woman's sexuality and sensuality are very different that a mans.  I could give you many examples.  One for instance is if a woman is in the middle of an orgasm and you stop doing what you are doing, it will stop, she just stops coming.  That is a frustrating thing for a woman.  A man on the other hand, once he starts coming, an earthquake won't stop it.

Do you really and I mean really understand a woman's sexuality? 

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Why She Doesn't Want to Have Sex

I hear many men say their wives or girlfriends just lost interest in sex.  They wonder why.  In the beginning it seemed all hot.  Though it is natural for the sex to slow down some, often it's more to it than something to just be accepted as normal.  It usually boils down to boredom or the fact that it starts to feel like a chore or obligation for a woman.

One of two things happen over time.  The sex is always the same and even though she may experience orgasms, it often feels like to her, that is the man's main goal.  Don't get me wrong, it is a goal and one that yes you should absolutely have.  On the other hand if you go at it like a job, just trying to get her to cum, a lot get lost.  Women connect through sex emotionally.  If you aren't giving her that emotional fulfillment, all the orgasms in the world will be lost.  If she feels like you are going about it like you are fixing a car or mowing the lawn, it's just not so much fun anymore, not to mention it leaves a void.

Men often get carried away with the sex, meaning they start to feel very arroused and we women feel pressure to hurry up and cum.  The true sign of this.  If after she reaches an orgasm, you immediately go for getting yours.  While it's nice that you please us first, it starts to feel like the end goal was in fact your pleasure.  Next time your woman climaxes, stop, take your time.  You might be surprised as she reaches a second climax.  We want you to get yours, we really do, but we don't want to feel like we have to hurry up and cum. 

I was involved once upon a time with a man who had been married previously for 30 years.  He was a wonderful man.  After our relationship turned sexual though, I completely understood why he hadn't been getting sex in his marriage.  He was like a kid in a candy store.  It became all about how many ways he could cum.  Yes he pleased me, but I often felt like that was just a by product of his sexual pleasure.  I began to feel cheap.  He wanted me to do some weird stuff.  He put pressure on me and went about getting his weird stuff from the perception of a man.  Women don't think like men when it comes to sex.

I can guarantee a woman would be more likely to do many things for you if she didn't feel like sex always had to be the end result.  Take the pressure off of her, and the sex will come.  She may enjoy rubbing your back, but she doesn't feel inclined to do so because men often translate this kind of touching to she wants it NOW and this isn't always the case.  What she wants is the connection.  Give her that, you will get the sex.

It's the man coming up behind his wife in the kitchen thing.  He humps on her as she washes dishes.  To him, this can be a turn on and he gets an erection.  I can assure you very few women get wet being humped on from behind in the kitchen.  In fact it annoys most women to no end because she now knows he wants sex.

In summary, slow down cowboy.  Take it easy and slow.  Don't go straight for the spot.  There are times when yes that may be appropriate, as there are times when a quickie is just fine.  For the most part though, going straight for the spot and working to make her cum just feels like something is missing.  You aren't in touch with our true sexuality and that is something we all wish you men would take the time to do.  Understand our sexuality.

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Two Huge Mistakes Men Make in Bed

There are two mistakes that men make in bed that I would imagine there isn't a woman around that can't relate to.  If when talking to their girlfriends and the subject comes up, they will all sigh in unison, trust me.  We have all had these two mistakes done to us more than once.

The First Biggest Mistake That Men Make in Bed

You may be doing something really well.  You could be going down on her or stroking her or you may be pounding her like there is no tomorrow and it's feeling really good.  The mistake here is that you stop doing what is feeling really really good to her.  Why you stop, we don't know, but in that moment, we want to just shoot you, trust me.  We get frustrated and it feels just awful.  There is nothing worse than being on the brink or orgasm and you stop and go to something different.  The entire momentum is interrupted.  Unlike men, who once orgasm starts, it won't stop, we are left hanging.  You are going to explode even if your mama walks in.  Not us women, doesn't work that way.  Stimulation stops, so does the orgasm.  Just ughhh.

It would really serve you guys well to pay attention here to her breathing and heart rate and her complexion.  They are very telling as to where she is at.  Right before orgasm, a woman can feel her heart just beating very rapidly.  Hell I can hear it in my ears and it baffles me that you as a man can't pick up on this.  If you are thinking that "She is enjoying this so much, let me see what else I can do she might enjoy more", drop that mentality.  If it's working, let her cum, then go onto something else and give her another orgasm.



The Second Biggest Mistake Men Make in Bed

A mistake that men make in bed often is that they get stuck in a spot doing it all wrong.  Maybe they are rubbing her clit or going down on her as mentioned above, but they are in the wrong place or putting on too much pressure or not enough.  Maybe they are rubbing or licking the lower half of her clit and she likes to have the upper part stimulated.  Men do this for one of two reasons. 

1.  They want her to hurry up and cum because they are too excited and ready to cum themselves. 

2.  They don't care or know any better.  They really don't know what their woman prefers.  All women are not alike and don't respond to the same thing.  When a man goes straight for the spot and starts rubbing away before it's even wet, he has a long road ahead of him to making her cum more times than not.  It downright can hurt and pain does not result in orgasm. 

If one of those two reasons don't resonate with you, you can bet that is how she feels.  Women often worry that it takes them too long to cum and that you are getting tired or not enjoying it.  Put that pressure on a woman and find it's going to take her that much longer to reach orgasm, if she even can.  Many women can't or don't orgasm because they don't feel their men really are that interested in her orgasm.  This is when they may start to fake it, because it's turning into work.  This is when they start getting a lot of head aches or aren't in the mood. It's a vicious cycle. 

Break this cycle please before she starts to fantasize about another man.  Don't make her have to finish herself off in those few minutes it takes you to go to the bathroom and piss after sex. 

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Getting Her In The Mood

I often hear men who have been in a relationship for a while of are married complain that they rarely get sex anymore.  We get comfortable and the fact is, it does take effort to keep that spice alive.  If you come home every day and do the same thing such as park you ass in front of the TV, it gets dull.  Not to mention a man parked in front of a TV everyday does lose some of his appeal.

Men can go from zero to ready in a flash.  We can grab your penis and you are there.  You try grabbing our Vagina or ass though and I promise you won't get the same result.  It's a known fact that a woman has to be in the right mindset to want to have sex and be turned on.  So many men focus on her body to turn her on, when the focus should be on her mindset.

Last night my boyfriend and I were on Youtube listening to different types of music.  Like most men, his requests were of hard rock, classic rock and a few country drinking songs.  While those songs are great and have their place, my selection was quite different.  I was listening to Leon Russell's Lady Blue, Van Morrison's Someone exactly like you, Bozz Skaggs' Look What You've done to me and other such romantic slow blues type music.  I realized that this type of music relaxed me and put me in a more loving, lovemaking mood.

This music can stimulate our tired minds, calm us and the result is our mindset starts to change.  My one tip to help your woman and to getting her in the mood for today is to create a playlist with these type of songs and when the time is right, pop in the cd and just relax, have a glass of wine with your woman with this background music.  She not only will appreciate the fact that you did this for her, she will delight in the music itself.  Women are suckers for romantic songs   Take it up a notch, and dance with her in the living room or kitchen.

Another way if you have one of those high tech phones is to randomly text her these songs throughout the day.  I promise she will love you for it and you will reap the rewards of making your woman feel romantic.  Women love romance, always have, always will.  If you are leaving the romance out of your build up to sex, no wonder you aren't getting any.

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Masterful Lover? What About Him?

What is a Masterful Lover? A man that can bring a woman to multiple orgasms. A man that can tune into his woman, make her feel a level of comfort and freedom where she just lets go. A man that understands it's not just skill, but it's mental for a woman. Orgasm starts in her mind. A masterful lover will be able to bring his woman to many orgasms, both vaginal and clitoral.

A Masterful Lover is rare. Most men stop at the first orgasm. The majority of men will bring their women to orgasm first, then they get theirs and it's over. Few take it to the levels that a woman is capable of reaching. Even fewer understand this or know that women are capable of so much more.

I recently interviewed with David Shade, the man responsible for teaching and educating men about being a Masterful Lover. It was quite and interesting two hours as he probed and prodded me about the lovers in my past. Sad thing, I only really have had one Masterful Lover. I have had many a good lover, but only one Masterful Lover. Until my interview, I never really thought about it, but boy have I dreamed about it. Fantasized about it as all women do.

Seems my one Masterful Lover to this day, I don't know how or why he stood out above the others, but he did. Now I wonder was he one of David's students. I may never know.

Almost all women do dream about this man that is so rare. We all would love to not be able to get out of bed after sex from exhaustion and legs shaking, trembling. It rarely happens. Men do the same thing almost every time. They find something that gets their women off and they stop searching for other ways to please her. It becomes predictable.

Do you have any idea how many women lay in bed and masturbate after their lover is "finished" or has went to the bathroom. Yep, we do. We may have even had an orgasm, but we can masturbate while you are taking a quick piss and have another orgasm in less than a minute. We all do it, bet you didn't know that did you.

We don't feel comfortable more times than not sharing these things, because frankly we worry that you will think we are abnormal. Not all women are comfortable asserting themselves, few are. It's up to you to get in her head and really please her in bed.

Often when we do assert ourselves we are met with a negative response. I remember a huge fight one night with a man. He asked me to leave and said it wasn't all about sex. He was right about that of course, but what really happened there is I wounded his ego. I perhaps didn't communicate it correctly. I wasn't saying he didn't please me. I was saying he could please me more. What a nightmare, makes a woman want to keep her mouth shut.

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About Female Ejaculation

According to Wikepedia female ejaculation is as follows. Female ejaculation (commonly known as gushing, cumming or squirting[1]) refers to the expulsion of noticeable amounts of clear fluid by human females from the paraurethral ducts through and around the urethra during or before an orgasm. The exact source and nature of the fluid continues to be a topic of debate among medical professionals and is related to doubts over the existence of the G-Spot.

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I am not so sure what there is to actually to debate about female ejaculation. I have experienced it. So to me there is nothing to debate. It is surely a g-spot thing. From a woman's perspective though, it can be a touchy thing, meaning some men are turned on by it, some are turned off by it. I mean do you warn the man prior to sex or just surprise him? Some women are embarrassed by it, some are not.

I am no expert in this area by any means, but do know a quite a few women who can do this. One thing they all have in common is they are all over 40 so maybe it has something to do with being more in tune with you body which is more common in older women.

Another thing these women capable of female ejaculation have in common that I know is it does happen during intercourse generally, it is g-spot related and they are usually very comfortable with their partner, meaning they trust him.

The comfort with their partner is important, because if you don't know this already, orgasm for a woman is in her mind. If her mind is not in the right place, it won't happen. It's up to you to get her in the right place in her mind for her to reach a female ejaculation orgasm.

If you are a good lover, you probably would love to be able to bring your woman to this intense level of pleasure. I assure you it is intense and quite different from a clitoral orgasm or vaginal orgasm. If she has never experienced female ejaculation, she is missing out.

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Once a woman does experience female ejaculation, she usually doesn't look back and it can and will become a common thing for her. It's up to you though to help her get there.

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What Women Want in Bed

This is the question men ask all the time. There are over 3600 searches daily just in the local area here alone. Are you guys getting the answers? I think most men think they already know what women want in bed, but the sad truth is most of them really don't.

How do I know this? Because I coach hundreds of women about love and relationship. 90% or more are with a man that they so wish knew more. They don't tell them because to be honest, one of the things women want most in bed is a man in charge, a man that just knows and is open to exploring and encouraging her to be the tiger inside.

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Thing is so many men say that communication is the key. It's not. Sure it helps but it is not the key. The key is understanding a woman's sexuality. Understanding that sex is in her mind and how exactly this relates to what women want in the bedroom.

I challenge you to answer the following questions honestly.

Is your sexlife like a broken record, same thing everytime. Sure she has an orgasm but is it the almost the same everytime

Do you usually initiate sex and she rarely if ever does.

Do you ever turn her down when she comes to you for sex?

Do you think your partner has no sexual fantasies?

Do you not touch her hair, her face and look into her eyes while making love?

Do you neglect her other basic body parts, neck, arms, thighs, even feet?

Does sex always start in the bedroom and never outside of it?

Do you think she just wants to have an orgasm and teasing would not be all that welcomed?

Does she ever have to lay there for a while to catch her breath afterwards?

Do you stop at her one orgasm? Do you think that her orgasm means it's over? Is her one orgasm you single goal?

Do you know if your woman has a submissive or dominant nature in the bedroom.

If you answered yes to 3 or more of these questions, you do not know what women want in bed, sorry but you just don't.

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A woman is capable of extreme pleasure, multiple orgasms and wild passion. Talking to here about it is not going to wake her up. She craves and desires a masterful lover. She dreams about it.

Just the dominant/submissive question alone speaks volumes. I have been with a few men in my lifetime and until recently, not a one ever knew I prefer the submissive role in the bedroom. They all thought they knew me, but never really did. The lovers in my past would be shocked to know this about me actually. I never told them to be honest because there wasn't a single one that would have gotten it.

This doesn't mean they were bad lovers, I have had the orgasms, but they weren't great lovers. A great lover knows these things instinctively because he is in tune with a woman's sexuality. A great lover awakens something primal in his partner. Can you do this. He has taken the time to learn what women want in bed.

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Does your partner respond to you like this video clip. You can be she wants too? If you have never seen this movie, well let me summarize. Mickey Rourke knew how to push the buttons in Kim Bassinger's mind to get her to show him what it was she really really wanted in bed. This is a masterful lover.

Female Fantasies

When I ask men if they think women fantasize about sex as much as men, most say no. Let me tell you that is far from the truth. A woman's fantasy is often more complex, more thought out than a mans. Female fantasies can go on for days in her mind. It's what she calls to mind when she masturbates or pleasures herself.

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If you think they are all pure, such as being swept off into the sunset, think again. Women fantasize about all kinds of things, but with women there is usually a plot.

Some of the common female fantasies include the rape fantasy, the gyno fantasy, and almost every woman has fantasized about another woman going down on her. I doubt there is a woman alive who hasn't had this fantasy. The forced orgasm is another fantasy.

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If you think you know what goes on in your woman's mind, I would wager that you don't. Women don't tell their men more times than not because the men don't make them feel safe to do so. They fear his reaction or that he may think she is perverted or be turned off by it.

It's a shame really, because we keep them locked inside and a females fantasy if shared can take her to new heights in the bedroom. Just being able to share it with you alone opens her up more and makes her feel safe and able to let loose with you like you only dream about or see in the porn flicks.

So many men think they know all about women and what turns them on when in fact they know very little. I am not saying you are a terrible lover, but I know a woman who's partner gives her orgasms without even touching her. This can be done, because sex for a woman is in her mind.

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How to Make a Woman Scream In Bed

Well this subject interests me. I have asked a lot of women if they are screamers and let me tell you, most are not. I have talked to hundreds of women and two said they had been with men that made them scream in bed. So here is the question. Is it just not common that women scream in bed or is it that they just haven't been taken to that level. So is it the woman or the man who is responsible here.

Now another view here. Those porn flicks. All the women scream in those. Is this normal? Is it just acting? Do men watch these and just think it's the norm when it's not? I personally haven't really screamed like an ape or anything like those women in those flicks do. Does that mean my man isn't doing it right? Could a man who hasn't ever had a woman scream in bed, learn how to bring her to that point?

Now these same women who said they had never screamed in bed did say however, that some men just did it for them more than others. They had been breathless, had multiple orgasms and were out of control. The just didn't scream.

Let's explore another angle. Don't you think we feel a little silly screaming in bed? I mean if we aren't super confident, this is going to be a chore here to let lose and shout out an ear piercing scream. We have to be really comfortable with you to do this, I can assure you.

I would venture so far as to say if you have a screaming woman in bed and it's the first time, she just faked it on you big time.

Do I think men can probably learn how to make a woman scream in bed. Yes I do. I think he better be willing to put in some time and effort though and learn a few skills. I am not so convinced that every woman will be able to scream in bed, but I am convinced that every woman can have what she describes as a screaming orgasm.

How to Touch a Woman to Turn Her On

Seems like a simple thing doesn't it? Touching a woman that is. Well if they all were alike, it would be, but they aren't. What does it for one woman, doesn't work on another.

If you want to turn her on you have to be able to really pay attention. Don't think that going straight for the sweet wet spot is all there is to it. There is so much more to it. Women have many pleasure zones. If you want to really turn her on, explore her body and find her zones.

There is nothing more frustrating to a woman than to be making out and he goes straight down south with his hands or fingers. Foreplay really is the key. If you take the time to find out her hot spots and linger there prior to going for the kitty, her orgasm is going to come quicker and be stronger.

The neck and ears are usually a sure place to kiss or touch. Spend time there. Don't do a hit and run. You can tell if a woman is enjoying your touch by how she reacts. I swear so many men get caught up in their own pulsing penis that they just miss her body signal by a mile. Listen to her breathing, is she moaning a little? Pay attention. If she gets stiff, she isn't liking your touch.

The lower abdomen is also usually a sure bet, I mean really low. Rub her softly about 4 inches below her belly button. Try different pressures. Soft and go harder, test her breathing. Which touch does she respond to. Some like it gentle, some like it rough. Don't assume she is like your last girlfriend, she isn't. Inner thighs seem to be a hot spot also.

Now how can I write this blog post and not mention breasts? No way. Fact is some women are stimulated by touching, kissing, licking, sucking the breasts and some are not. Know if she is or isn't. If a woman has really sensitive breasts, this causes her discomfort and it will be a turn off, not a turn on.

Bottom line, explore different places, different degrees of touch, soft hard and PAY ATTENTION. All women are not created equal. If you want to intensify her orgasms, take your time, learn her body and don't just hop on and hump away as soon as she gets wet or shows signs of arousal. Tease and please her.

Staying Hard When Putting On a Condom

Staying Hard When Putting On The Condom

by Alex Allman, Author of Revolutionary Sex


There is not a guy in the world who has
never had a problem "getting it up" at least a
few times in his life... and any guy that tells you
otherwise is lying.

It can strike any time, and like some kind
of cruel joke, it usually decides to happen when
the stakes are high... you are a with a woman you are
especially attracted to, or that you are have strong
feelings for and really want to impress.

Doh!

And maybe the worst part is...

If it happens once, it has this nasty habit
of happening again... because the very next time
you are in bed with a woman (or the same woman),
all you can think about is... "damn! I sure hope
THAT doesn't happen again!"

And that's pretty much the surest way to
make it happen again... or... um... NOT happen might
be a better way to put it.

So maybe you try fantasizing about something
that you KNOW has worked in the past-- maybe some
other girl or situation.

Most guys have tried that route, and so you
probably know that it usually doesn't work so well. It's
just one more train of thought that interferes with
getting into what you are doing in the here and now.

And if she says or does anything that
interrupts your fantasy, it takes you right back
to where you were before.

Or maybe you've been in the situation where
everything seems good to go, you get good and hard,
and then something interrupts the flow...

...like, say, putting on a condom...

...and suddenly, the game is off.

Ug.

I get a lot of emails about this particular
one... men saying that the interruption of putting
on the condom can not only wilt their erection, but
then make it even more difficult to get hard again.

I wish I didn't have such vivid pictures of
it in my own head, but like I said, EVERYONE'S been
there.

And listen carefully now: Don't ever use
this as an excuse to go without protection. That's
just stupid.

You need to learn a better way.

Thankfully, I never have this particular
problem any more. I've learned a lot of great
techniques for dealing with it, and I'm going to
share a few of the best ones right here in this
newsletter.

First off, I guess I should mention for the
sake of honesty and accuracy, that the various
pills that are available from your doctor, that I
won't mention by name (though the most popular one
starts with a "V"), all work very well.

But I don't recommend you go that route.

You can... but remember that you can very
quickly become dependent on them as a crutch whenever
you want to get things going...

That can get expensive. And it can kill
the spontaneous moment when you want to do it
RIGHT NOW.

And more importantly... it can mess with
your confidence and your ego.

For some guys, however, these pharmaceuticals
can be very helpful to get over the initial hurdle... but
for other guys it makes the situation worse because,
psychologically they feel they really NEED the pills, and
it stops them from EVER doing it the "normal" way.

I don't know your particular situation, but
I promise you, if you can get hard when you do it
alone, then you don't have a medical condition and
you definitely do NOT NEED those pills.

So let's begin at the beginning:

>>The Problem Is In Your Head

This the most important thing to remember
here. It is in YOUR head, and if it is in YOUR
head then YOU can fix it.

Let me go back and mention again that I
am assuming that you CAN get it up when you are
alone. If this is NOT the case, then the problem
could, in fact, be physical, and you need to talk
to your doctor about it as soon as possible as it
might indicate a more serious problem.

Okay, so if you're still with me, then the
problem, we agree, is in your head.

And that's a good thing, because your head
is something that you can learn to control.

I read quite a few books and articles on
the subject of performance anxiety, and how it
was related to stress, and all of these other
factors, and all of these exercises to help you
get over it...

And none of it really worked that well for
me... or any of the men that I've counseled since
then.

Most of the time, I'd be okay, but then
once in a while I'd have a little "problem" and
the next thing I knew, I'd be in a cycle of having
that little problem, because it made me more and
more nervous that it would happen again.

Well, believe it or not, I found the seed
of the answer in Eastern Philosophy.

>>Quiet The Chattering Monkey Mind

That's what the Zen masters and Yoga gurus
call it...

You know, when you just can't shut your
brain off... like when you can't fall asleep at
night because of all of these thoughts swirling
around in your head that just won't shut up...

Or when you are in bed with a beautiful
woman and you've got all of these other thoughts
running through your mind...

what about what's going on at work...
am I going for it too soon...
what if she thinks I'm lame in bed...
what if she thinks my dick is too small...
I wonder what she's thinking right now...
What if I can't get it up again...
Has she noticed yet that I'm not hard...

That, my friend, is the Chattering Monkey
Mind.

And is it any wonder, with all of that crap
running around in your head, that you can't focus
on what you are doing? That you can't get into
it?

The bottom line is that you need to learn
how to quiet this chattering monkey. It is doing
you no good at all... and it is hurting you in the
bedroom.

Worse, it is probably hurting you in other
areas of your life too... this is just the one
that you may be aware of.

Becoming aware that this is the problem--
and believe it or not, this really is very likely
the ONLY problem that you have with getting it up--
is the first step to solving it for good.

And what's more, I absolutely guarantee
that if you can quiet these intrusive voices in
your mind, you will never have this problem, ever
again.

So, now it's just a matter of learning
that control.

If you want WAY more information on
this particular method, I explain this powerful
technique for eliminating performance problems
in detail starting on page 16 of my eBook. You
can read it now, right here:

Overcome Performance Anxiety

If you really have a serious problem with
this and you've really been struggling with it for
a long time, I strongly recommend that you take up
a meditation practice.

That's what all those Zen Masters and Yoga
Gurus do to quiet their Chattering Monkey Minds--
and it works.

Take a class or get a book, and start a
meditation practice in you life.

Aside from the many benefits to your stress
level and brain function, it TEACHES you to control
your mind. And that is a very, very useful thing
to learn. It's no different from lifting weights to
build your muscles... except that you are building
strength in a function of your brain.

But okay, I know you are thinking you want
something you can use RIGHT NOW...

Don't worry. I'm not gonna let you down.


>>Say Something

This is a really great way of eliminating
one of the loudest chattering monkeys that most
guys deal with.

I've found that MOST guys who have had
problems in this area say that the thing that worries
them the most, the one that really loops around in
their head, is: "I wonder what she is thinking right
now... I wonder if she has noticed that I'm not
hard."

Because this is the worst of the chattering
monkeys for most guys, it is the one that creates
the biggest problem for getting "into it" and
getting hard.

So, first, let me give you the answer so
that you can stop wondering... yes, she has noticed
that you are not hard.

But the good news is that she is NOT
thinking that you are a loser because you can't
get it up... she's thinking that SHE is a loser.

Yep. You heard me right.

Because, you see, women are just as messed
up and insecure as we are. Maybe even more.

And what she's thinking is... "oh my God,
he's not into me. He doesn't like my body now that
he sees me naked... I'm doing something wrong...
Maybe I smell bad... he thinks my breasts look
weird."

Here's another thing she's thinking: "oh no,
not again."

Because unless she is a virgin, she has
experienced this situation before with other men...
because, like I said, it happens to all men from
time to time. So it's not like you are the first
guy she has ever been with where this happened.

The bottom line is... IT'S NO BIG DEAL...

If you just SAY something to her about
it.

Instead of wondering what she is thinking
while she is wondering what you are thinking...

Just TELL her what to think.

Tell her something like, "don't worry, just
a little stress at work. Sometimes it takes me
a little longer. It's not you at all. I'm
very attracted to you, and if you are a little bit
patient, everything will be working fine in just
a few minutes... and if not, I promise, I'll take
good care of you either way."

She will be so relieved and pleased that
you were man enough to say something that she will
become as happy as a kitten with manual and oral
sex, and it takes the pressure off of you, so you
can just enjoy yourself.

And then just do that... enjoy yourself.

Enjoy touching her and having her touch
you. And in no time, if you just stop worrying
about it, your little champ will join in on the fun.

>> Don't Think About The Champ

And while I'm on it... the other monkey
that chatters in every guy's head when he's
having trouble getting it up is... thinking about
getting it up.

Is it hard yet?

Is it hard yet?

I think I feel it starting to... oh, no...
not yet...

Is it hard yet?

Shut that switch OFF!

I know, easier said than done. But once
you reassure the girl you are with that it's
nothing to think about, you need to take the same
advice.

As I said above, the key is "becoming
present." If your situation is minor, you will
find just this advice is enough to unlock the door
for you.

But if you need more to understand "becoming
present" then get my book, or take a class in
meditation, or... do both.

Okay, here's the hard sell:

Get the book.

Because there is way more to be an amazing
lover than just getting hard... though, let's face
it, that's a very important start!

But you shouldn't settle for just the
minimum, and if she is a woman of high quality,
then she won't either.

Learn to be the best lover that she has
ever even dared to imagine.

Check out the awesome FREE sex tips here...

Sexual Intercourse Techniques

Female Ejaculation Techniques -Teach her How to Squirt

Is female ejaculation (sometimes called
"squirting") real?

Yes. It's absolutely real. Women can ejaculate
a large amount of clear liquid when they have a
specific kind of deep orgasm.

But most men will never experience this kind of
thing with their partner.

The thicker, whitish stuff that sometimes
comes out in surprising amounts is actually just
the normal lubrication of her vagina. It’s totally
normal and nothing to worry about.

But female ejaculation comes out much more
water-like, it is clear, and it is completely
odorless. It's produced by a separate set of
glands in her body called the intra-urethral
glands (sometimes called the Skene's gland).

And it happens only as a result of a special
type of orgasm. Usually after a very long
build-up and then a “blended” orgasm from
both the clitoris and g spot at the same time.

Also, as the "squirting orgasm" builds many women
feel the urge to pee (this is actually the sensation
of the glands filling).

So in this article I'd like to talk a little bit
about why some women can have such intense orgasms,
how a WOMAN can begin to intensify her own orgasms,
and how a skilled partner (that's YOU) can help her
get there.

When a man masters her body in this way,
she can have sexual pleasure that she probably
can't even imagine until she has experienced it.

There are a couple of factors that make this
possible...

First is the "build up" of sexual tension.

When she is alone and masturbating, she is
probably not as excited and nervous, and full
of wild, untamed energy as she would be with a
man (or same sex partner) who is really turning
her on.

You know that feeling of powerful anticipation
you get when you are going to do something dangerous...
or something that just "seems" dangerous, like a
roller-coaster or bungee jumping? Have you ever felt
that way with a sexual partner? Have you ever felt
that awesome lust and crazy nervous energy
around someone you were just super-attracted to?

Well, probably you don't feel that way before
masturbation... and neither does she.

And this build-up is a big part of creating
the sexual magic that I'm talking about.

There's a lot more information about this
part of sex... the seduction before the love-
making to get a woman incredibly turned on in
my eBook... a guy can actually learn to CREATE
that crazy, standing-in-the-roller-coaster-line
energy in a woman.

The second part is prolonging the build-up
and building the excitement level to a breaking
point.

This is also hard for her to do alone.

**Give her this tip: Breathing deeply and
slowly, surfing the sexual pleasure instead
of forcing it, is a good way to visualize what
you should be doing.

For you, the man, the idea is to bring her close,
and then back her slightly off the peak over
and over, for as long as she can stand it...
and then give her "permission" to come--
giving her an exponentially more powerful orgasm.

A skilled partner can also begin to string
multiple orgasms together to bring her to higher
and higher points of pleasure.

These multiple and stacked orgasms can reach
a level where she might actually think she's
going insane from the intensity of the experience.

It's not something she is ever going to be able
to do by herself.

Now, for the "squirting orgasm" there are
some other factors involved.

Women can have incredibly powerful orgasms
without ever having an ejaculation... but for
women who do squirt, they say there is an extra
feeling of "complete release" that makes them
feel very purged, clean, and even spiritually
satisfied afterwards... even though it might
not always be the most powerful orgasm.

My friend Tallulah sat down and talked to
me about this for a long time-- she is probably
the ultimate expert on female ejaculation...
She's a sexologist who actually teaches live
workshops for women on how they can have this
experience.

As she told me from her own experience in
teaching women in her workshops--
"there is no woman that can't learn to squirt
because every woman has the anatomy to do it."

She also gave this great tip that many women
find extremely helpful...

Female Ejaculation is like "giving birth to
your orgasm."

Here's how to teach your woman what to do:

Put your finger into her vagina and press
up against her g spot.

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g spot, you can go here:

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Then tell her to push her g spot back against
your finger with the muscles of her vagina.

At first this may be awkward, it may feel
uncomfortable for her, it may even be impossible...

Keep practicing. This exercise is a great
short-cut to teaching her how to squirt.

(Tallulah is such an incredible source of
information on this subject, and the subject of
female orgasm in general, that I got her to sit
down and do an interview with me for my "Interviews
With Sex Gurus" audio series. It is AWESOME.)

Okay, finally, sometimes when a woman feels like
she is about to have a really intense orgasm, she
starts to breath faster and faster... or... much
worse... she holds her breath.

She shouldn't do either.

Tell her to just breath deeply and slowly
in time with the waves of pleasure. It will begin
to feel like she is "surfing" the waves of pleasure
with her breath when she gets this rhythm right.

Don't let her freak out and start panic-breathing or
holding her breath as she feels it coming on...
talk gently to her, win her trust, and tell her to
just relax and keep surfing.

Oh... I almost forgot the most important tip
of all...

Before you do all this stuff, put some towels
down on the bed. The first time you experience
full female ejaculation you might be surprised
by the amount of fluid that comes out.

These tips will get you started in a big way...
and hopefully give you and your girl more fulfilling,
powerful, and passionate sexual pleasure.

For a lot more step-by-step tips on female ejaculation,
including "trouble shooting" tips for girls who are
"almost there", check out my online eBook:
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Orgasm Techniques That Work On Every Woman

The One Technique That "Works" On EVERY Woman

By Alex Allman, Author Of "Revolutionary Sex"


I hate generalizations when it comes to women
but... yes, there is one thing that works on EVERY
woman in the bedroom.

Which is pretty amazing because women can be
very, very different when it comes to what "works."

If you've had a couple of serious
girlfriends in your life... serious enough that you
stopped pretending for each other and really TALKED
about what she "secretly" likes in the bedroom...

Especially if you've had that conversation with
more than one woman, then you already know-- different
women like REALLY... almost WEIRDLY... different things
between the sheets. Like... spectacularly different...
even opposite things sometimes.

Not only that, but often they like
different things at different times in their life
and they can change their minds insanely quickly.

And not only that, but sometimes what
really gets them off in bed changes depending on their
mood in that MOMENT.

*sigh* ...women.

And even though all of that is absolutely
true, there is still ONE thing that, if you know
the secret to it, will work on EVERY woman, EVERY
time, no matter who she is, what stage of life, or
what mood she's in.

Yep. It's that good.

If you've already read my eBook, "Revolutionary
Sex," then you are smiling and nodding, because you already
KNOW what the secret is, and you've got the very happy girl
in your bed to prove it.

Have you figured out what the one thing is
that "works" on all women?

If you are guessing that it has something
to do with being "extra large" you are so
misinformed that I don't know where to begin. You
need my book very, very badly.

If you are thinking that it requires the
"endurance" of a marathon runner on steroids and
the ability to "hold back" forever, you are almost
as wrong-headed.

Of course, it is very important to learn
the simple techniques of lasting long enough to
please your woman... but also that is for YOUR
pleasure, so that you can relax and really enjoy
the experience together. And I talk about how to
do that in my book.

But a guy can last all day long and NEVER
really drive his girl crazy with pleasure if he
doesn't know what he's doing.

In fact, there are many, many girls who will
tell you that they WISH the guy they were with
would finish SOONER because it's getting her
nowhere except more and more frustrated as he keeps
going at it.

If you're thinking of some kind of
technique or position, or something you do with
your tongue or fingers, you're still way off.

And it's not a matter of how fast, how
slow, how hard, or how gentle.

Nope.

Because for every one of these things, you
will find girls who disagree about what REALLY
works for them individually.

The one thing that every woman secretly
dreams of, that will drive every woman wild is a
simple two-word answer.

And if you can really perfect this one
skill, you will become the kind of man that a woman
will do almost ANYTHING to keep around.

The G spot?

No. But the G spot started me on the road
to figuring it all out...

I remember when I first learned how to find
the G-spot on a woman. And, coincidentally, I found out
about it from a book.

I was a freshman in college and, of course,
I had HEARD about the legendary G-spot... but I was
too embarrassed to ASK anyone where it was.

So, I went to the library. These days, of
course, you can just hit the internet and go to
wikipedia.org and get an instant answer complete
with a diagram... so if you don't know where it is,
go check that out right now...

As it turned out, the g spot worked amazingly well
to launch my girlfriend at the time into the stratosphere.

But...

Weirdly and frustratingly enough--

It didn't work AT ALL on my next girlfriend. She
could only have an orgasm with clitoral stimulation. In
fact, when I touched her g spot, she said it was uncomfortable
and felt "like a gynecologist examination."

Little by little I learned that every woman is
different and has to be touched differently.

And, as I got better at finding out quickly
what worked on different women, I accidentally discovered
that I had stumbled upon something amazing...

The One Thing That "Works" On Every Woman.

The thing that every woman wants is a guy
who knows just...

this...

one...

thing...

Pay Attention.

No, I'm not saying to pay attention to what
I'm about to say... "Pay Attention" is the answer.

Unfortunately, while the answer is
simple... it's only two words after all... most
guys will never learn to do it quite right.

You see, once I discovered that what worked
on one women wouldn't work on EVERY woman, I began to
wonder if there was a way to figure out what any
individual woman was into.

And one of the first things I realized is
that "asking her" does NOT work.

Not only is that a turn-off for many women,
but, amazingly, most women don't even KNOW what
really drives them wild because most women have
never been with a guy who was really amazing in bed.

So they never even realized that there are
things that could take them higher than they ever
dreamed of... much higher than they had ever gone
through masturbation.

When you are making love to a woman,
learning to pay attention to the subtle signals
that her body is sending you, and UNDERSTANDING
what they are saying, is the one skill that will
allow you to unlock the door to every fantasy that
she has ever had.

Not convinced?

Okay, well, here's something for you to
think about that will change your mind.

Remember I was just talking about the g spot
and how it can send some women right into orbit?

Well, as it turns out, that's true of MOST
women.

But what's really amazing is...

A woman can't reach her own g spot.

That's right. Without a partner, a woman
would likely NEVER find her own g-spot.

(Sure, I know that there are "adult toys" that
she can buy to get up there, but if she has never
had someone else do it, it is very unlikely that she'd
know what she was missing... and frankly it would just
be weird and embarrassing for her to buy the thing).

Think about how DIFFERENT this is from
being a man... how different from YOU.

I mean, as guys, we pretty much KNOW
everything that's going to feel good on us.

But women don't.

In fact, the first time you give a woman
a stacked multiple orgasm (page 104 in the book) she
will probably completely freak out... because she
never suspected that she was even CAPABLE of that
kind of pleasure.

That's why "paying attention" is a much
bigger concept than you can imagine.

Women communicate on a much more sub-text
level than men.

A woman may say, "harder, harder," but if
you think that's all she means, you are very wrong.

And, like I said... even SHE might not know
what she means. That could be the moment to hold
back from going harder to tease her into an even
deeper state of arousal.

To understand a woman in bed you have to
pay attention to what her BODY is saying.

You have to learn to listen to her
breathing and the tension in her muscles, you have
to be able to feel and decode all of the messages
that her body is sending to yours.

And that is not something you can do with
your brain.

You can't "figure it out."

You have to just listen. Listen with your
whole body.

And then, of course, you have to pay
attention.

In this way, you will know EXACTLY what to
do, and EXACTLY how to do it... for ANY woman.

And when she finds a guy who can do that...

It is as if she has found a man who can
read her mind. She feels like you were actually
made specially just for her. Like you are the
PERFECT LOVER that she has always dreamed about.

I know that this is starting to sound
complicated. But if there is a woman in your life
that you want to really drive completely wild, then
I can't tell you how important it is to spend a bit
of time to understand this stuff.

Because the simple truth of "pay attention"
is not so simple to explain in practice.

Once you see it all in context with all of
the specific techniques, it will make TOTAL SENSE.

You will get that "a-ha!" moment.

The moment you realize that it's not just
what you learn to DO by paying attention, but the
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Female Orgasm Techniques

How To Last Longer In Bed

Learn To Last Longer In Bed

by Alex Allman, author of "Revolutionary Sex"


So there you are in bed with this beautiful girl and things are getting hotter by the second. You penetrate her and she gasps with pleasure... she starts wriggling her hips against your body... and she makes that soft moaning sound in your ear...

And it's just... too... damn... hot!

And just like that, it's over, nearly before it got started.

Sound familiar?

Just about every guy on Earth has been through that one...

Or sometimes you can go a bit longer... and she's getting very close to having the orgasm of her life... you can feel it building like the pressure behind the dams of New Orleans during Hurricane Katrina... She's digging her nails into your back and she manages to get the words out between panting breaths: "I'm almost there...!"

And that does it. Whoosh. It's over. Right... before... that orgasm of her life.

And if you think it's frustrating for YOU... Haaa! Yes, man, it is even more frustrating for her. Especially if it happens over and over again.

The worst part?

It probably WILL happen over and over again... because when it happens the first time, it shakes your confidence. You feel a certain level of anxiety the next time. You really want to impress her...

And guess what is the number one cause of ejaculating too soon?

If you said, "anxiety over ejaculating too soon," then you probably made more than just a lucky guess.

So look, I'm not going to lie to you. I know plenty of guys who have lost their woman over this kind of thing, and plenty of women who, after a lot of soul-searching, left a man that they really cared about because she just couldn't get what she needed sexually. It just made more sense to become "just friends".

The good news is that ANY man... and yes, I do mean ANY guy can learn how to last as long as he wants in the sack.

And while many men have written to me with the wrong-headed idea that their penis is just more sensitive than anyone else's is, the fact of the matter is that 99% of premature ejaculation is 100% in the head. It really does come down to that level of sexual anxiety.

There's also an entire other group of guys who think that they are ejaculating too soon... but actually last well above average... they just don't realize that it's okay to take a little break and change positions now and then. Sex is not a sprinter's event.

Relax. Take your time.

And if you have been making love for 30 minutes and your woman hasn't had an orgasm yet, it's not because you can't last long enough... it's because you aren't pushing her buttons in the right way. With the right sexual skills you can get her to orgasm far more easily and more frequently... WITHOUT having to learn to last longer.

In other words: You probably haven't read my book yet.

And for what it's worth, you may be very relieved to hear: The vast majority of men don't last over 5 minutes of continuous thrusting.

That doesn't mean you can't make love all night long... it just means that sawing away inside of her without stopping is not the right way to do it.

Now, with that said, I believe that a man should learn total control. You should be able to control your ejaculation virtually at will. The reason I believe this is because it is YOUR body. And just as we control our other body functions, just as we don't wet the bed as adults, just as we control fear when we must, and we don't cry when the doctor gives us our flu shot, this is one more area where a man should learn to master himself.

There are many techniques for lasting longer... some work better than others, and some work better for different individuals.

The grand-daddy of them all is known as the "baseball method", or the "distraction method", which basically means that you distract yourself by thinking about something else (like memorizing baseball statistics) while having sex.

This one has been around so long because it is reasonably effective. And it's worth learning and experimenting with because it does help to train your MIND to do what you want it to do... and, like I said, 99% of this skill is in your head.

And while it is not one of the more powerful techniques, it is effective enough to show you this: If you can normally last 30 seconds, and this technique gets you to 60 seconds, then you have just PROVEN to yourself that with practice and the right information, you could ultimately learn to go from 1 minute to 2, and from 2 to 4, and ultimately to hours.

But the main downside to this technique is that it is boring. It takes you out of the fun of sex. And it takes you out of being "present" in the moment with your girl... which, by the way, while allowing you last longer, will probably also make her feel like you are not very passionate nor very good in bed.

Ouch.

Fortunately there are many other, more powerful techniques.

I've written a lot on this subject and it frustrates me when some guy writes back and says, "hey Alex, I tried that thing you teach and it didn't work for me."

That's like a guy reading an article about how to snow board, falling down as he gets off the lift, and saying, "it didn't work."

If you have a serious issue with this, and you are ready to learn how to last as long as any woman can stand it, and you're willing to put in a little bit of practice, I've prepared a free video and free (yes, yes, it's actually free) downloadable strategy guide with all of the best techniques for you to start using right away.

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Why She Won't Tell You What She Wants in Bed

Women do want certain things in bed, mainly mind blowing sex and a deep connection to go with it. She won't tell you how to get there most of the time. A woman often fears how you will react of what you will think of her if she tells you of her deepest desires. It goes hand in hand with that fear of rejection, which I am sure you are all too familiar with.

She is probably fearful also that you won't take it well. If you are have been in a relationship or married for a while, we women already know to how men react to change. If all of a sudden we start wanting something different, we think you are going to get suspicious. We also are all too in tuned to your male ego. We don't want to hurt your feelings or rock the boat.

Then there is the woman who has been faking it forever and she is tired of it. She may not be faking orgasm, but she may be faking or lying about how great the sex is. If you have been together a long time, have you dared lately to ask her what she wants? If not, chances are good, you have a lot of room for improvement. You might be good, but you could probably be really great for her if you would put in the effort.

Women feel it's your place to make this move. We see a man that we have to lead as weak. We crave, desire a man to take our interests and needs in the bedroom to heart. The one thing that keeps us from telling you what we want in the bedroom may be the one thing that keeps you from digging into it. Fear of rejection.

If you think she may not be open to it, it's easier to just keep on doing what you are doing right? If you think she will also start to get suspicious, thinking you are wanting it elsewhere, again you may just decide to not rock the boat. Chances are, you really don't know how or where to start to take sex from good to great.

This is sad. We women really do want a man who knows exactly what to do to push our buttons and give us multiple orgasms and if you think your woman isn't capable or just doesn't enjoy sex, you are dead wrong, she is and she can enjoy sex. What she wants in bed is for you to be her ultimate lover.

It takes a brave and superior man to really dive into this subject and become the lover she always wished she had. I would venture to say the majority of women have not had this kind of lover and if she has, it was probably only once, twice at the most and it may not have been you. Something else we will never tell you.

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What Do Women NOT Want In Bed

I am going to be real here. I have polled over 200 women about what they don't like in bed. It was pretty enlightening. It seems that my claim most men don't know what they don't know is pretty accurate. I am just going to list the top 20 complaints I got from women about their men in bed. I hope you don't fall into any of these. We really do want you to know though. We just don't want to tell you. We worry we will hurt your feelings or open a can of worms that will drive a wedge into the relationship. Do you really know what women want in bed or do you think you know?

1. Cindy says she can expect the same thing everytime. Her boyfriend fingers her to orgasm, then climbs on top and gets his. Same thing everytime. She is bored.

3. Lindsey said her guy will go down on her, get her almost there, but never finishes. She said he honestly doesn't know when she has an orgasm or not.

4. Tina said no foreplay at all. Her husband rubs on her a few minutes, maybe her back and hops on top.

5. Kayla says her guy thinks the moment she is wet, it's time to put it in. He assumes because she is wet, she is ready.

6. Roxie's guy gropes her roughly, she has tried to tell him to slow it down and be gentle, but he gets carried away with his own pleasure and doesn't pay her any attention.

7. Diane said her tits hurt like hell after sex. Her husband grabs them and kneads them much like biscuit dough. She has told him jokingly, but he still does it.

8. Betsy's guy fingers her a long time, but he doesn't get it right. He never seems to hit the spot, she has had a few orgasms by shear chance, but for the most part, it's just uncomfortable.

9. Jennifer says her guy of 3 years is always wanting a blow job. She doesn't mind, but wishes he was as enthusiastic when it came to going down on her.

10. Sarah dates a guy obsessed with entering her back door. She is against this, but he is constantly referring to it.

In summary, there were 16 women who were completely satisfied. The rest did not have orgasms everytime and were usually left frustrated. A few had never had an orgasm with their partners. Some after years could count them on one hand and it was rare to have a woman remark she could have a vaginal orgasm.

So what's going on? Is it communication? Some of this may be hard to believe, but from my own experience and that of my closest friends, I can tell you, it's pretty accurate. I dated a guy a year and never once had an orgasm with him. He did not know, he assumed I did. I dated another guy for 8 years and had 1 orgasm and I had to do most of the work to make that happen. I could go on and on. One of my best friends just cheated on her boyfriend. She had tried to tell him he wasn't doing it for her, but he got offended and defensive, which is why we don't tell you.

I have had in my lifetime 1 partner that got it and could hit it out the ball park and it had nothing to do with the size of his penis. One! Now there were a few that were really good, but great? No, just one. Sad.

So why aren't you guys doing more to find out what women want in bed? What's up with that. You think if it's not broke why fix it. You think it's good. What's wrong with taking good to great? Women can and want to take it to higher levels. We are built that way. We can orgasm more than once. We are reluctant to let go of the skillful lover. Is that you?