I am writing this blog because it has come to my attention that there
are some basics that a lot of men just don't know about or don't
understand. While I would like to think most men get the basics, I am
reminded daily by women who mail me and prove me wrong. This blog post
is dedicated to these frustrated women.
1. First let me state, women for the most part are not visually stimulated. I know a lot of men don't grasp this because there are a lot of texts out there that men have sent with pictures of their penis. I had a guy email me that he was doing this to turn his girlfriend on and just didn't get why she didn't respond. A picture of a Vagina or a hot naked girl may get you going, but a penis picture just doesn't do it for us. We don't care how big or magnificent it is. We know you adore it, but we just want to feel it work, not gaze upon it.
2. That brings me to penis worship. There are some of you that think of your Penis as an individual bordering on Devine. There are guys out there that even ask us to acknowledge their penis accordingly. In other words, they actually say things like "Aren't you doing to say hey to Mr. Woody?" Seriously, you think we want to talk to your penis?
3. Pushing on our heads, pushing us down. This drives most of us crazy. We know you love a blow job, and most of us are more than willing. We would rather do it at our pace though. Being pushed down just feels yuck is the only way I can describe it. If you do this often, I bet your woman is rarely in the mood. The pushing makes us think it's all about you. Consider telling her what you want instead.
4. Groping or grabbing on us. You know how you walk up to us and squeeze our breasts or grab our ass. It's not a turn on. Yes it can be playful, but most women just don't like it, at all. A playful slap on the ass sure, but all that groping while we are busy doing something else can be annoying. We don't want to be in the men's locker room, really we don't.
5. Locking ankles behind ears is not a turn on for most women. It goes back to the visual thing again. We understand you like the view. The fact is, most women are not at ease with their bodies. When in this position, they don't feel very attractive. They are not thinking of how good it feels. They are thinking how fat they look with their belly pushed up like that.
6. Poor hygiene. This one is huge. Little things turn women off. I had one woman mail me about her hot boyfriend. He was a stud in her eyes, until she saw an accumulation of wax in his ear. She could not bring herself to have sex with him. Sure he could have just had an ear infection, but the damage was done. You body scent and breath are important too. A little sweat is ok, but if you haven't bathed in days, we can smell it. Bad breath is also a big turnoff. While I love a hard working rugged man, I don't really want him in my bed until he bathes.
7. No foreplay. I am amazed at the frustrated women who complain about this. Countless complaints here. Some men go straight for the sweet spot with no warm up. If it's not wet, it can actually hurt or be very uncomfortable. Then there is the man that thinks because it's wet, it's time to insert the penis. We love foreplay, don't skimp on this.
8. Telling us when to cum or asking us are we cumming or asking did we cum. The pressure that puts on us. Most of us can't cum on command. If you want us to come on command, I suggest you look into David Shade's program, Erotic Hypnosis. It works and could be fun. Otherwise, forget it. Don't pressure us to orgasm, it's a sure way to make sure we don't.
9. Breasts. All women differ hear. Some like them to be caressed softly, some like them to be handled roughly. Some like them licked, some like them sucked. If you suck on a woman who prefers licking, you will turn her completely off. Don't assume that your current woman likes what your previous woman does. Ask her, find out how she likes to be touched.
10. All women are different. Going at your woman with what worked on the last one is not wise. Take the time to find out what she likes. Pay attention. She gives off clues if she isn't comfortable yet telling you what she likes. Listen to her breathing. Watch her complexion. If you could feel or hear her heartbeat, that tells you when she is about to climax. It gets very rapid. Not all of the above things turn all women off, just most. We are all unique. Learn our bodies individually and you will have a happy woman.
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1. First let me state, women for the most part are not visually stimulated. I know a lot of men don't grasp this because there are a lot of texts out there that men have sent with pictures of their penis. I had a guy email me that he was doing this to turn his girlfriend on and just didn't get why she didn't respond. A picture of a Vagina or a hot naked girl may get you going, but a penis picture just doesn't do it for us. We don't care how big or magnificent it is. We know you adore it, but we just want to feel it work, not gaze upon it.
2. That brings me to penis worship. There are some of you that think of your Penis as an individual bordering on Devine. There are guys out there that even ask us to acknowledge their penis accordingly. In other words, they actually say things like "Aren't you doing to say hey to Mr. Woody?" Seriously, you think we want to talk to your penis?
3. Pushing on our heads, pushing us down. This drives most of us crazy. We know you love a blow job, and most of us are more than willing. We would rather do it at our pace though. Being pushed down just feels yuck is the only way I can describe it. If you do this often, I bet your woman is rarely in the mood. The pushing makes us think it's all about you. Consider telling her what you want instead.
4. Groping or grabbing on us. You know how you walk up to us and squeeze our breasts or grab our ass. It's not a turn on. Yes it can be playful, but most women just don't like it, at all. A playful slap on the ass sure, but all that groping while we are busy doing something else can be annoying. We don't want to be in the men's locker room, really we don't.
5. Locking ankles behind ears is not a turn on for most women. It goes back to the visual thing again. We understand you like the view. The fact is, most women are not at ease with their bodies. When in this position, they don't feel very attractive. They are not thinking of how good it feels. They are thinking how fat they look with their belly pushed up like that.
6. Poor hygiene. This one is huge. Little things turn women off. I had one woman mail me about her hot boyfriend. He was a stud in her eyes, until she saw an accumulation of wax in his ear. She could not bring herself to have sex with him. Sure he could have just had an ear infection, but the damage was done. You body scent and breath are important too. A little sweat is ok, but if you haven't bathed in days, we can smell it. Bad breath is also a big turnoff. While I love a hard working rugged man, I don't really want him in my bed until he bathes.
7. No foreplay. I am amazed at the frustrated women who complain about this. Countless complaints here. Some men go straight for the sweet spot with no warm up. If it's not wet, it can actually hurt or be very uncomfortable. Then there is the man that thinks because it's wet, it's time to insert the penis. We love foreplay, don't skimp on this.
8. Telling us when to cum or asking us are we cumming or asking did we cum. The pressure that puts on us. Most of us can't cum on command. If you want us to come on command, I suggest you look into David Shade's program, Erotic Hypnosis. It works and could be fun. Otherwise, forget it. Don't pressure us to orgasm, it's a sure way to make sure we don't.
9. Breasts. All women differ hear. Some like them to be caressed softly, some like them to be handled roughly. Some like them licked, some like them sucked. If you suck on a woman who prefers licking, you will turn her completely off. Don't assume that your current woman likes what your previous woman does. Ask her, find out how she likes to be touched.
10. All women are different. Going at your woman with what worked on the last one is not wise. Take the time to find out what she likes. Pay attention. She gives off clues if she isn't comfortable yet telling you what she likes. Listen to her breathing. Watch her complexion. If you could feel or hear her heartbeat, that tells you when she is about to climax. It gets very rapid. Not all of the above things turn all women off, just most. We are all unique. Learn our bodies individually and you will have a happy woman.
FREE CD! The Secrets of the Masterful Lover
