Staying Hard When Putting On The Condom
by Alex Allman, Author of Revolutionary Sex
There is not a guy in the world who has
never had a problem "getting it up" at least a
few times in his life... and any guy that tells you
otherwise is lying.
It can strike any time, and like some kind
of cruel joke, it usually decides to happen when
the stakes are high... you are a with a woman you are
especially attracted to, or that you are have strong
feelings for and really want to impress.
Doh!
And maybe the worst part is...
If it happens once, it has this nasty habit
of happening again... because the very next time
you are in bed with a woman (or the same woman),
all you can think about is... "damn! I sure hope
THAT doesn't happen again!"
And that's pretty much the surest way to
make it happen again... or... um... NOT happen might
be a better way to put it.
So maybe you try fantasizing about something
that you KNOW has worked in the past-- maybe some
other girl or situation.
Most guys have tried that route, and so you
probably know that it usually doesn't work so well. It's
just one more train of thought that interferes with
getting into what you are doing in the here and now.
And if she says or does anything that
interrupts your fantasy, it takes you right back
to where you were before.
Or maybe you've been in the situation where
everything seems good to go, you get good and hard,
and then something interrupts the flow...
...like, say, putting on a condom...
...and suddenly, the game is off.
Ug.
I get a lot of emails about this particular
one... men saying that the interruption of putting
on the condom can not only wilt their erection, but
then make it even more difficult to get hard again.
I wish I didn't have such vivid pictures of
it in my own head, but like I said, EVERYONE'S been
there.
And listen carefully now: Don't ever use
this as an excuse to go without protection. That's
just stupid.
You need to learn a better way.
Thankfully, I never have this particular
problem any more. I've learned a lot of great
techniques for dealing with it, and I'm going to
share a few of the best ones right here in this
newsletter.
First off, I guess I should mention for the
sake of honesty and accuracy, that the various
pills that are available from your doctor, that I
won't mention by name (though the most popular one
starts with a "V"), all work very well.
But I don't recommend you go that route.
You can... but remember that you can very
quickly become dependent on them as a crutch whenever
you want to get things going...
That can get expensive. And it can kill
the spontaneous moment when you want to do it
RIGHT NOW.
And more importantly... it can mess with
your confidence and your ego.
For some guys, however, these pharmaceuticals
can be very helpful to get over the initial hurdle... but
for other guys it makes the situation worse because,
psychologically they feel they really NEED the pills, and
it stops them from EVER doing it the "normal" way.
I don't know your particular situation, but
I promise you, if you can get hard when you do it
alone, then you don't have a medical condition and
you definitely do NOT NEED those pills.
So let's begin at the beginning:
>>The Problem Is In Your Head
This the most important thing to remember
here. It is in YOUR head, and if it is in YOUR
head then YOU can fix it.
Let me go back and mention again that I
am assuming that you CAN get it up when you are
alone. If this is NOT the case, then the problem
could, in fact, be physical, and you need to talk
to your doctor about it as soon as possible as it
might indicate a more serious problem.
Okay, so if you're still with me, then the
problem, we agree, is in your head.
And that's a good thing, because your head
is something that you can learn to control.
I read quite a few books and articles on
the subject of performance anxiety, and how it
was related to stress, and all of these other
factors, and all of these exercises to help you
get over it...
And none of it really worked that well for
me... or any of the men that I've counseled since
then.
Most of the time, I'd be okay, but then
once in a while I'd have a little "problem" and
the next thing I knew, I'd be in a cycle of having
that little problem, because it made me more and
more nervous that it would happen again.
Well, believe it or not, I found the seed
of the answer in Eastern Philosophy.
>>Quiet The Chattering Monkey Mind
That's what the Zen masters and Yoga gurus
call it...
You know, when you just can't shut your
brain off... like when you can't fall asleep at
night because of all of these thoughts swirling
around in your head that just won't shut up...
Or when you are in bed with a beautiful
woman and you've got all of these other thoughts
running through your mind...
what about what's going on at work...
am I going for it too soon...
what if she thinks I'm lame in bed...
what if she thinks my dick is too small...
I wonder what she's thinking right now...
What if I can't get it up again...
Has she noticed yet that I'm not hard...
That, my friend, is the Chattering Monkey
Mind.
And is it any wonder, with all of that crap
running around in your head, that you can't focus
on what you are doing? That you can't get into
it?
The bottom line is that you need to learn
how to quiet this chattering monkey. It is doing
you no good at all... and it is hurting you in the
bedroom.
Worse, it is probably hurting you in other
areas of your life too... this is just the one
that you may be aware of.
Becoming aware that this is the problem--
and believe it or not, this really is very likely
the ONLY problem that you have with getting it up--
is the first step to solving it for good.
And what's more, I absolutely guarantee
that if you can quiet these intrusive voices in
your mind, you will never have this problem, ever
again.
So, now it's just a matter of learning
that control.
If you want WAY more information on
this particular method, I explain this powerful
technique for eliminating performance problems
in detail starting on page 16 of my eBook. You
can read it now, right here:
Overcome Performance Anxiety
If you really have a serious problem with
this and you've really been struggling with it for
a long time, I strongly recommend that you take up
a meditation practice.
That's what all those Zen Masters and Yoga
Gurus do to quiet their Chattering Monkey Minds--
and it works.
Take a class or get a book, and start a
meditation practice in you life.
Aside from the many benefits to your stress
level and brain function, it TEACHES you to control
your mind. And that is a very, very useful thing
to learn. It's no different from lifting weights to
build your muscles... except that you are building
strength in a function of your brain.
But okay, I know you are thinking you want
something you can use RIGHT NOW...
Don't worry. I'm not gonna let you down.
>>Say Something
This is a really great way of eliminating
one of the loudest chattering monkeys that most
guys deal with.
I've found that MOST guys who have had
problems in this area say that the thing that worries
them the most, the one that really loops around in
their head, is: "I wonder what she is thinking right
now... I wonder if she has noticed that I'm not
hard."
Because this is the worst of the chattering
monkeys for most guys, it is the one that creates
the biggest problem for getting "into it" and
getting hard.
So, first, let me give you the answer so
that you can stop wondering... yes, she has noticed
that you are not hard.
But the good news is that she is NOT
thinking that you are a loser because you can't
get it up... she's thinking that SHE is a loser.
Yep. You heard me right.
Because, you see, women are just as messed
up and insecure as we are. Maybe even more.
And what she's thinking is... "oh my God,
he's not into me. He doesn't like my body now that
he sees me naked... I'm doing something wrong...
Maybe I smell bad... he thinks my breasts look
weird."
Here's another thing she's thinking: "oh no,
not again."
Because unless she is a virgin, she has
experienced this situation before with other men...
because, like I said, it happens to all men from
time to time. So it's not like you are the first
guy she has ever been with where this happened.
The bottom line is... IT'S NO BIG DEAL...
If you just SAY something to her about
it.
Instead of wondering what she is thinking
while she is wondering what you are thinking...
Just TELL her what to think.
Tell her something like, "don't worry, just
a little stress at work. Sometimes it takes me
a little longer. It's not you at all. I'm
very attracted to you, and if you are a little bit
patient, everything will be working fine in just
a few minutes... and if not, I promise, I'll take
good care of you either way."
She will be so relieved and pleased that
you were man enough to say something that she will
become as happy as a kitten with manual and oral
sex, and it takes the pressure off of you, so you
can just enjoy yourself.
And then just do that... enjoy yourself.
Enjoy touching her and having her touch
you. And in no time, if you just stop worrying
about it, your little champ will join in on the fun.
>> Don't Think About The Champ
And while I'm on it... the other monkey
that chatters in every guy's head when he's
having trouble getting it up is... thinking about
getting it up.
Is it hard yet?
Is it hard yet?
I think I feel it starting to... oh, no...
not yet...
Is it hard yet?
Shut that switch OFF!
I know, easier said than done. But once
you reassure the girl you are with that it's
nothing to think about, you need to take the same
advice.
As I said above, the key is "becoming
present." If your situation is minor, you will
find just this advice is enough to unlock the door
for you.
But if you need more to understand "becoming
present" then get my book, or take a class in
meditation, or... do both.
Okay, here's the hard sell:
Get the book.
Because there is way more to be an amazing
lover than just getting hard... though, let's face
it, that's a very important start!
But you shouldn't settle for just the
minimum, and if she is a woman of high quality,
then she won't either.
Learn to be the best lover that she has
ever even dared to imagine.
Check out the awesome FREE sex tips here...
Sexual Intercourse Techniques
Tuesday, December 28, 2010
Thursday, December 16, 2010
Female Ejaculation Techniques -Teach her How to Squirt
Is female ejaculation (sometimes called
"squirting") real?
Yes. It's absolutely real. Women can ejaculate
a large amount of clear liquid when they have a
specific kind of deep orgasm.
But most men will never experience this kind of
thing with their partner.
The thicker, whitish stuff that sometimes
comes out in surprising amounts is actually just
the normal lubrication of her vagina. It’s totally
normal and nothing to worry about.
But female ejaculation comes out much more
water-like, it is clear, and it is completely
odorless. It's produced by a separate set of
glands in her body called the intra-urethral
glands (sometimes called the Skene's gland).
And it happens only as a result of a special
type of orgasm. Usually after a very long
build-up and then a “blended” orgasm from
both the clitoris and g spot at the same time.
Also, as the "squirting orgasm" builds many women
feel the urge to pee (this is actually the sensation
of the glands filling).
So in this article I'd like to talk a little bit
about why some women can have such intense orgasms,
how a WOMAN can begin to intensify her own orgasms,
and how a skilled partner (that's YOU) can help her
get there.
When a man masters her body in this way,
she can have sexual pleasure that she probably
can't even imagine until she has experienced it.
There are a couple of factors that make this
possible...
First is the "build up" of sexual tension.
When she is alone and masturbating, she is
probably not as excited and nervous, and full
of wild, untamed energy as she would be with a
man (or same sex partner) who is really turning
her on.
You know that feeling of powerful anticipation
you get when you are going to do something dangerous...
or something that just "seems" dangerous, like a
roller-coaster or bungee jumping? Have you ever felt
that way with a sexual partner? Have you ever felt
that awesome lust and crazy nervous energy
around someone you were just super-attracted to?
Well, probably you don't feel that way before
masturbation... and neither does she.
And this build-up is a big part of creating
the sexual magic that I'm talking about.
There's a lot more information about this
part of sex... the seduction before the love-
making to get a woman incredibly turned on in
my eBook... a guy can actually learn to CREATE
that crazy, standing-in-the-roller-coaster-line
energy in a woman.
The second part is prolonging the build-up
and building the excitement level to a breaking
point.
This is also hard for her to do alone.
**Give her this tip: Breathing deeply and
slowly, surfing the sexual pleasure instead
of forcing it, is a good way to visualize what
you should be doing.
For you, the man, the idea is to bring her close,
and then back her slightly off the peak over
and over, for as long as she can stand it...
and then give her "permission" to come--
giving her an exponentially more powerful orgasm.
A skilled partner can also begin to string
multiple orgasms together to bring her to higher
and higher points of pleasure.
These multiple and stacked orgasms can reach
a level where she might actually think she's
going insane from the intensity of the experience.
It's not something she is ever going to be able
to do by herself.
Now, for the "squirting orgasm" there are
some other factors involved.
Women can have incredibly powerful orgasms
without ever having an ejaculation... but for
women who do squirt, they say there is an extra
feeling of "complete release" that makes them
feel very purged, clean, and even spiritually
satisfied afterwards... even though it might
not always be the most powerful orgasm.
My friend Tallulah sat down and talked to
me about this for a long time-- she is probably
the ultimate expert on female ejaculation...
She's a sexologist who actually teaches live
workshops for women on how they can have this
experience.
As she told me from her own experience in
teaching women in her workshops--
"there is no woman that can't learn to squirt
because every woman has the anatomy to do it."
She also gave this great tip that many women
find extremely helpful...
Female Ejaculation is like "giving birth to
your orgasm."
Here's how to teach your woman what to do:
Put your finger into her vagina and press
up against her g spot.
For more information on how to find the
g spot, you can go here:
Anchor Text: Location Of The G-Spot
Link: http://www.lifelovepassion.com/cmd.php?Clk=4048952
Then tell her to push her g spot back against
your finger with the muscles of her vagina.
At first this may be awkward, it may feel
uncomfortable for her, it may even be impossible...
Keep practicing. This exercise is a great
short-cut to teaching her how to squirt.
(Tallulah is such an incredible source of
information on this subject, and the subject of
female orgasm in general, that I got her to sit
down and do an interview with me for my "Interviews
With Sex Gurus" audio series. It is AWESOME.)
Okay, finally, sometimes when a woman feels like
she is about to have a really intense orgasm, she
starts to breath faster and faster... or... much
worse... she holds her breath.
She shouldn't do either.
Tell her to just breath deeply and slowly
in time with the waves of pleasure. It will begin
to feel like she is "surfing" the waves of pleasure
with her breath when she gets this rhythm right.
Don't let her freak out and start panic-breathing or
holding her breath as she feels it coming on...
talk gently to her, win her trust, and tell her to
just relax and keep surfing.
Oh... I almost forgot the most important tip
of all...
Before you do all this stuff, put some towels
down on the bed. The first time you experience
full female ejaculation you might be surprised
by the amount of fluid that comes out.
These tips will get you started in a big way...
and hopefully give you and your girl more fulfilling,
powerful, and passionate sexual pleasure.
For a lot more step-by-step tips on female ejaculation,
including "trouble shooting" tips for girls who are
"almost there", check out my online eBook:
Click Here For More Female Ejaculation Techniques
"squirting") real?
Yes. It's absolutely real. Women can ejaculate
a large amount of clear liquid when they have a
specific kind of deep orgasm.
But most men will never experience this kind of
thing with their partner.
The thicker, whitish stuff that sometimes
comes out in surprising amounts is actually just
the normal lubrication of her vagina. It’s totally
normal and nothing to worry about.
But female ejaculation comes out much more
water-like, it is clear, and it is completely
odorless. It's produced by a separate set of
glands in her body called the intra-urethral
glands (sometimes called the Skene's gland).
And it happens only as a result of a special
type of orgasm. Usually after a very long
build-up and then a “blended” orgasm from
both the clitoris and g spot at the same time.
Also, as the "squirting orgasm" builds many women
feel the urge to pee (this is actually the sensation
of the glands filling).
So in this article I'd like to talk a little bit
about why some women can have such intense orgasms,
how a WOMAN can begin to intensify her own orgasms,
and how a skilled partner (that's YOU) can help her
get there.
When a man masters her body in this way,
she can have sexual pleasure that she probably
can't even imagine until she has experienced it.
There are a couple of factors that make this
possible...
First is the "build up" of sexual tension.
When she is alone and masturbating, she is
probably not as excited and nervous, and full
of wild, untamed energy as she would be with a
man (or same sex partner) who is really turning
her on.
You know that feeling of powerful anticipation
you get when you are going to do something dangerous...
or something that just "seems" dangerous, like a
roller-coaster or bungee jumping? Have you ever felt
that way with a sexual partner? Have you ever felt
that awesome lust and crazy nervous energy
around someone you were just super-attracted to?
Well, probably you don't feel that way before
masturbation... and neither does she.
And this build-up is a big part of creating
the sexual magic that I'm talking about.
There's a lot more information about this
part of sex... the seduction before the love-
making to get a woman incredibly turned on in
my eBook... a guy can actually learn to CREATE
that crazy, standing-in-the-roller-coaster-line
energy in a woman.
The second part is prolonging the build-up
and building the excitement level to a breaking
point.
This is also hard for her to do alone.
**Give her this tip: Breathing deeply and
slowly, surfing the sexual pleasure instead
of forcing it, is a good way to visualize what
you should be doing.
For you, the man, the idea is to bring her close,
and then back her slightly off the peak over
and over, for as long as she can stand it...
and then give her "permission" to come--
giving her an exponentially more powerful orgasm.
A skilled partner can also begin to string
multiple orgasms together to bring her to higher
and higher points of pleasure.
These multiple and stacked orgasms can reach
a level where she might actually think she's
going insane from the intensity of the experience.
It's not something she is ever going to be able
to do by herself.
Now, for the "squirting orgasm" there are
some other factors involved.
Women can have incredibly powerful orgasms
without ever having an ejaculation... but for
women who do squirt, they say there is an extra
feeling of "complete release" that makes them
feel very purged, clean, and even spiritually
satisfied afterwards... even though it might
not always be the most powerful orgasm.
My friend Tallulah sat down and talked to
me about this for a long time-- she is probably
the ultimate expert on female ejaculation...
She's a sexologist who actually teaches live
workshops for women on how they can have this
experience.
As she told me from her own experience in
teaching women in her workshops--
"there is no woman that can't learn to squirt
because every woman has the anatomy to do it."
She also gave this great tip that many women
find extremely helpful...
Female Ejaculation is like "giving birth to
your orgasm."
Here's how to teach your woman what to do:
Put your finger into her vagina and press
up against her g spot.
For more information on how to find the
g spot, you can go here:
Anchor Text: Location Of The G-Spot
Link: http://www.lifelovepassion.com/cmd.php?Clk=4048952
Then tell her to push her g spot back against
your finger with the muscles of her vagina.
At first this may be awkward, it may feel
uncomfortable for her, it may even be impossible...
Keep practicing. This exercise is a great
short-cut to teaching her how to squirt.
(Tallulah is such an incredible source of
information on this subject, and the subject of
female orgasm in general, that I got her to sit
down and do an interview with me for my "Interviews
With Sex Gurus" audio series. It is AWESOME.)
Okay, finally, sometimes when a woman feels like
she is about to have a really intense orgasm, she
starts to breath faster and faster... or... much
worse... she holds her breath.
She shouldn't do either.
Tell her to just breath deeply and slowly
in time with the waves of pleasure. It will begin
to feel like she is "surfing" the waves of pleasure
with her breath when she gets this rhythm right.
Don't let her freak out and start panic-breathing or
holding her breath as she feels it coming on...
talk gently to her, win her trust, and tell her to
just relax and keep surfing.
Oh... I almost forgot the most important tip
of all...
Before you do all this stuff, put some towels
down on the bed. The first time you experience
full female ejaculation you might be surprised
by the amount of fluid that comes out.
These tips will get you started in a big way...
and hopefully give you and your girl more fulfilling,
powerful, and passionate sexual pleasure.
For a lot more step-by-step tips on female ejaculation,
including "trouble shooting" tips for girls who are
"almost there", check out my online eBook:
Click Here For More Female Ejaculation Techniques
Wednesday, December 15, 2010
Orgasm Techniques That Work On Every Woman
The One Technique That "Works" On EVERY Woman
By Alex Allman, Author Of "Revolutionary Sex"
I hate generalizations when it comes to women
but... yes, there is one thing that works on EVERY
woman in the bedroom.
Which is pretty amazing because women can be
very, very different when it comes to what "works."
If you've had a couple of serious
girlfriends in your life... serious enough that you
stopped pretending for each other and really TALKED
about what she "secretly" likes in the bedroom...
Especially if you've had that conversation with
more than one woman, then you already know-- different
women like REALLY... almost WEIRDLY... different things
between the sheets. Like... spectacularly different...
even opposite things sometimes.
Not only that, but often they like
different things at different times in their life
and they can change their minds insanely quickly.
And not only that, but sometimes what
really gets them off in bed changes depending on their
mood in that MOMENT.
*sigh* ...women.
And even though all of that is absolutely
true, there is still ONE thing that, if you know
the secret to it, will work on EVERY woman, EVERY
time, no matter who she is, what stage of life, or
what mood she's in.
Yep. It's that good.
If you've already read my eBook, "Revolutionary
Sex," then you are smiling and nodding, because you already
KNOW what the secret is, and you've got the very happy girl
in your bed to prove it.
Have you figured out what the one thing is
that "works" on all women?
If you are guessing that it has something
to do with being "extra large" you are so
misinformed that I don't know where to begin. You
need my book very, very badly.
If you are thinking that it requires the
"endurance" of a marathon runner on steroids and
the ability to "hold back" forever, you are almost
as wrong-headed.
Of course, it is very important to learn
the simple techniques of lasting long enough to
please your woman... but also that is for YOUR
pleasure, so that you can relax and really enjoy
the experience together. And I talk about how to
do that in my book.
But a guy can last all day long and NEVER
really drive his girl crazy with pleasure if he
doesn't know what he's doing.
In fact, there are many, many girls who will
tell you that they WISH the guy they were with
would finish SOONER because it's getting her
nowhere except more and more frustrated as he keeps
going at it.
If you're thinking of some kind of
technique or position, or something you do with
your tongue or fingers, you're still way off.
And it's not a matter of how fast, how
slow, how hard, or how gentle.
Nope.
Because for every one of these things, you
will find girls who disagree about what REALLY
works for them individually.
The one thing that every woman secretly
dreams of, that will drive every woman wild is a
simple two-word answer.
And if you can really perfect this one
skill, you will become the kind of man that a woman
will do almost ANYTHING to keep around.
The G spot?
No. But the G spot started me on the road
to figuring it all out...
I remember when I first learned how to find
the G-spot on a woman. And, coincidentally, I found out
about it from a book.
I was a freshman in college and, of course,
I had HEARD about the legendary G-spot... but I was
too embarrassed to ASK anyone where it was.
So, I went to the library. These days, of
course, you can just hit the internet and go to
wikipedia.org and get an instant answer complete
with a diagram... so if you don't know where it is,
go check that out right now...
As it turned out, the g spot worked amazingly well
to launch my girlfriend at the time into the stratosphere.
But...
Weirdly and frustratingly enough--
It didn't work AT ALL on my next girlfriend. She
could only have an orgasm with clitoral stimulation. In
fact, when I touched her g spot, she said it was uncomfortable
and felt "like a gynecologist examination."
Little by little I learned that every woman is
different and has to be touched differently.
And, as I got better at finding out quickly
what worked on different women, I accidentally discovered
that I had stumbled upon something amazing...
The One Thing That "Works" On Every Woman.
The thing that every woman wants is a guy
who knows just...
this...
one...
thing...
Pay Attention.
No, I'm not saying to pay attention to what
I'm about to say... "Pay Attention" is the answer.
Unfortunately, while the answer is
simple... it's only two words after all... most
guys will never learn to do it quite right.
You see, once I discovered that what worked
on one women wouldn't work on EVERY woman, I began to
wonder if there was a way to figure out what any
individual woman was into.
And one of the first things I realized is
that "asking her" does NOT work.
Not only is that a turn-off for many women,
but, amazingly, most women don't even KNOW what
really drives them wild because most women have
never been with a guy who was really amazing in bed.
So they never even realized that there are
things that could take them higher than they ever
dreamed of... much higher than they had ever gone
through masturbation.
When you are making love to a woman,
learning to pay attention to the subtle signals
that her body is sending you, and UNDERSTANDING
what they are saying, is the one skill that will
allow you to unlock the door to every fantasy that
she has ever had.
Not convinced?
Okay, well, here's something for you to
think about that will change your mind.
Remember I was just talking about the g spot
and how it can send some women right into orbit?
Well, as it turns out, that's true of MOST
women.
But what's really amazing is...
A woman can't reach her own g spot.
That's right. Without a partner, a woman
would likely NEVER find her own g-spot.
(Sure, I know that there are "adult toys" that
she can buy to get up there, but if she has never
had someone else do it, it is very unlikely that she'd
know what she was missing... and frankly it would just
be weird and embarrassing for her to buy the thing).
Think about how DIFFERENT this is from
being a man... how different from YOU.
I mean, as guys, we pretty much KNOW
everything that's going to feel good on us.
But women don't.
In fact, the first time you give a woman
a stacked multiple orgasm (page 104 in the book) she
will probably completely freak out... because she
never suspected that she was even CAPABLE of that
kind of pleasure.
That's why "paying attention" is a much
bigger concept than you can imagine.
Women communicate on a much more sub-text
level than men.
A woman may say, "harder, harder," but if
you think that's all she means, you are very wrong.
And, like I said... even SHE might not know
what she means. That could be the moment to hold
back from going harder to tease her into an even
deeper state of arousal.
To understand a woman in bed you have to
pay attention to what her BODY is saying.
You have to learn to listen to her
breathing and the tension in her muscles, you have
to be able to feel and decode all of the messages
that her body is sending to yours.
And that is not something you can do with
your brain.
You can't "figure it out."
You have to just listen. Listen with your
whole body.
And then, of course, you have to pay
attention.
In this way, you will know EXACTLY what to
do, and EXACTLY how to do it... for ANY woman.
And when she finds a guy who can do that...
It is as if she has found a man who can
read her mind. She feels like you were actually
made specially just for her. Like you are the
PERFECT LOVER that she has always dreamed about.
I know that this is starting to sound
complicated. But if there is a woman in your life
that you want to really drive completely wild, then
I can't tell you how important it is to spend a bit
of time to understand this stuff.
Because the simple truth of "pay attention"
is not so simple to explain in practice.
Once you see it all in context with all of
the specific techniques, it will make TOTAL SENSE.
You will get that "a-ha!" moment.
The moment you realize that it's not just
what you learn to DO by paying attention, but the
very act of becoming totally absorbed in HER, brings
you both into a state of amazing connected intimacy.
This state opens her to possibilities of
pleasure that can not be reached by touch alone.
I have spent years and years of my life
figuring this stuff out. And figuring out how to
share the information in a way that other guys could
get the same results.
I'm so sure that the information in my book
is absolutely the best of its kind, that I'm
putting my money where my mouth is by offering a
2 month unconditional guarantee.
It's my honest belief that this book
will completely change your ability to give any
woman a mind blowing experience that she will never
forget.
If I'm wrong, you don't pay.
Simple.
Just click the link below and you can download
it NOW, and be reading in minutes.
Get started now by clicking here and downloading
your exclusive copy right now.
Female Orgasm Techniques
By Alex Allman, Author Of "Revolutionary Sex"
I hate generalizations when it comes to women
but... yes, there is one thing that works on EVERY
woman in the bedroom.
Which is pretty amazing because women can be
very, very different when it comes to what "works."
If you've had a couple of serious
girlfriends in your life... serious enough that you
stopped pretending for each other and really TALKED
about what she "secretly" likes in the bedroom...
Especially if you've had that conversation with
more than one woman, then you already know-- different
women like REALLY... almost WEIRDLY... different things
between the sheets. Like... spectacularly different...
even opposite things sometimes.
Not only that, but often they like
different things at different times in their life
and they can change their minds insanely quickly.
And not only that, but sometimes what
really gets them off in bed changes depending on their
mood in that MOMENT.
*sigh* ...women.
And even though all of that is absolutely
true, there is still ONE thing that, if you know
the secret to it, will work on EVERY woman, EVERY
time, no matter who she is, what stage of life, or
what mood she's in.
Yep. It's that good.
If you've already read my eBook, "Revolutionary
Sex," then you are smiling and nodding, because you already
KNOW what the secret is, and you've got the very happy girl
in your bed to prove it.
Have you figured out what the one thing is
that "works" on all women?
If you are guessing that it has something
to do with being "extra large" you are so
misinformed that I don't know where to begin. You
need my book very, very badly.
If you are thinking that it requires the
"endurance" of a marathon runner on steroids and
the ability to "hold back" forever, you are almost
as wrong-headed.
Of course, it is very important to learn
the simple techniques of lasting long enough to
please your woman... but also that is for YOUR
pleasure, so that you can relax and really enjoy
the experience together. And I talk about how to
do that in my book.
But a guy can last all day long and NEVER
really drive his girl crazy with pleasure if he
doesn't know what he's doing.
In fact, there are many, many girls who will
tell you that they WISH the guy they were with
would finish SOONER because it's getting her
nowhere except more and more frustrated as he keeps
going at it.
If you're thinking of some kind of
technique or position, or something you do with
your tongue or fingers, you're still way off.
And it's not a matter of how fast, how
slow, how hard, or how gentle.
Nope.
Because for every one of these things, you
will find girls who disagree about what REALLY
works for them individually.
The one thing that every woman secretly
dreams of, that will drive every woman wild is a
simple two-word answer.
And if you can really perfect this one
skill, you will become the kind of man that a woman
will do almost ANYTHING to keep around.
The G spot?
No. But the G spot started me on the road
to figuring it all out...
I remember when I first learned how to find
the G-spot on a woman. And, coincidentally, I found out
about it from a book.
I was a freshman in college and, of course,
I had HEARD about the legendary G-spot... but I was
too embarrassed to ASK anyone where it was.
So, I went to the library. These days, of
course, you can just hit the internet and go to
wikipedia.org and get an instant answer complete
with a diagram... so if you don't know where it is,
go check that out right now...
As it turned out, the g spot worked amazingly well
to launch my girlfriend at the time into the stratosphere.
But...
Weirdly and frustratingly enough--
It didn't work AT ALL on my next girlfriend. She
could only have an orgasm with clitoral stimulation. In
fact, when I touched her g spot, she said it was uncomfortable
and felt "like a gynecologist examination."
Little by little I learned that every woman is
different and has to be touched differently.
And, as I got better at finding out quickly
what worked on different women, I accidentally discovered
that I had stumbled upon something amazing...
The One Thing That "Works" On Every Woman.
The thing that every woman wants is a guy
who knows just...
this...
one...
thing...
Pay Attention.
No, I'm not saying to pay attention to what
I'm about to say... "Pay Attention" is the answer.
Unfortunately, while the answer is
simple... it's only two words after all... most
guys will never learn to do it quite right.
You see, once I discovered that what worked
on one women wouldn't work on EVERY woman, I began to
wonder if there was a way to figure out what any
individual woman was into.
And one of the first things I realized is
that "asking her" does NOT work.
Not only is that a turn-off for many women,
but, amazingly, most women don't even KNOW what
really drives them wild because most women have
never been with a guy who was really amazing in bed.
So they never even realized that there are
things that could take them higher than they ever
dreamed of... much higher than they had ever gone
through masturbation.
When you are making love to a woman,
learning to pay attention to the subtle signals
that her body is sending you, and UNDERSTANDING
what they are saying, is the one skill that will
allow you to unlock the door to every fantasy that
she has ever had.
Not convinced?
Okay, well, here's something for you to
think about that will change your mind.
Remember I was just talking about the g spot
and how it can send some women right into orbit?
Well, as it turns out, that's true of MOST
women.
But what's really amazing is...
A woman can't reach her own g spot.
That's right. Without a partner, a woman
would likely NEVER find her own g-spot.
(Sure, I know that there are "adult toys" that
she can buy to get up there, but if she has never
had someone else do it, it is very unlikely that she'd
know what she was missing... and frankly it would just
be weird and embarrassing for her to buy the thing).
Think about how DIFFERENT this is from
being a man... how different from YOU.
I mean, as guys, we pretty much KNOW
everything that's going to feel good on us.
But women don't.
In fact, the first time you give a woman
a stacked multiple orgasm (page 104 in the book) she
will probably completely freak out... because she
never suspected that she was even CAPABLE of that
kind of pleasure.
That's why "paying attention" is a much
bigger concept than you can imagine.
Women communicate on a much more sub-text
level than men.
A woman may say, "harder, harder," but if
you think that's all she means, you are very wrong.
And, like I said... even SHE might not know
what she means. That could be the moment to hold
back from going harder to tease her into an even
deeper state of arousal.
To understand a woman in bed you have to
pay attention to what her BODY is saying.
You have to learn to listen to her
breathing and the tension in her muscles, you have
to be able to feel and decode all of the messages
that her body is sending to yours.
And that is not something you can do with
your brain.
You can't "figure it out."
You have to just listen. Listen with your
whole body.
And then, of course, you have to pay
attention.
In this way, you will know EXACTLY what to
do, and EXACTLY how to do it... for ANY woman.
And when she finds a guy who can do that...
It is as if she has found a man who can
read her mind. She feels like you were actually
made specially just for her. Like you are the
PERFECT LOVER that she has always dreamed about.
I know that this is starting to sound
complicated. But if there is a woman in your life
that you want to really drive completely wild, then
I can't tell you how important it is to spend a bit
of time to understand this stuff.
Because the simple truth of "pay attention"
is not so simple to explain in practice.
Once you see it all in context with all of
the specific techniques, it will make TOTAL SENSE.
You will get that "a-ha!" moment.
The moment you realize that it's not just
what you learn to DO by paying attention, but the
very act of becoming totally absorbed in HER, brings
you both into a state of amazing connected intimacy.
This state opens her to possibilities of
pleasure that can not be reached by touch alone.
I have spent years and years of my life
figuring this stuff out. And figuring out how to
share the information in a way that other guys could
get the same results.
I'm so sure that the information in my book
is absolutely the best of its kind, that I'm
putting my money where my mouth is by offering a
2 month unconditional guarantee.
It's my honest belief that this book
will completely change your ability to give any
woman a mind blowing experience that she will never
forget.
If I'm wrong, you don't pay.
Simple.
Just click the link below and you can download
it NOW, and be reading in minutes.
Get started now by clicking here and downloading
your exclusive copy right now.
Female Orgasm Techniques
Tuesday, December 14, 2010
How To Last Longer In Bed
Learn To Last Longer In Bed
by Alex Allman, author of "Revolutionary Sex"
So there you are in bed with this beautiful girl and things are getting hotter by the second. You penetrate her and she gasps with pleasure... she starts wriggling her hips against your body... and she makes that soft moaning sound in your ear...
And it's just... too... damn... hot!
And just like that, it's over, nearly before it got started.
Sound familiar?
Just about every guy on Earth has been through that one...
Or sometimes you can go a bit longer... and she's getting very close to having the orgasm of her life... you can feel it building like the pressure behind the dams of New Orleans during Hurricane Katrina... She's digging her nails into your back and she manages to get the words out between panting breaths: "I'm almost there...!"
And that does it. Whoosh. It's over. Right... before... that orgasm of her life.
And if you think it's frustrating for YOU... Haaa! Yes, man, it is even more frustrating for her. Especially if it happens over and over again.
The worst part?
It probably WILL happen over and over again... because when it happens the first time, it shakes your confidence. You feel a certain level of anxiety the next time. You really want to impress her...
And guess what is the number one cause of ejaculating too soon?
If you said, "anxiety over ejaculating too soon," then you probably made more than just a lucky guess.
So look, I'm not going to lie to you. I know plenty of guys who have lost their woman over this kind of thing, and plenty of women who, after a lot of soul-searching, left a man that they really cared about because she just couldn't get what she needed sexually. It just made more sense to become "just friends".
The good news is that ANY man... and yes, I do mean ANY guy can learn how to last as long as he wants in the sack.
And while many men have written to me with the wrong-headed idea that their penis is just more sensitive than anyone else's is, the fact of the matter is that 99% of premature ejaculation is 100% in the head. It really does come down to that level of sexual anxiety.
There's also an entire other group of guys who think that they are ejaculating too soon... but actually last well above average... they just don't realize that it's okay to take a little break and change positions now and then. Sex is not a sprinter's event.
Relax. Take your time.
And if you have been making love for 30 minutes and your woman hasn't had an orgasm yet, it's not because you can't last long enough... it's because you aren't pushing her buttons in the right way. With the right sexual skills you can get her to orgasm far more easily and more frequently... WITHOUT having to learn to last longer.
In other words: You probably haven't read my book yet.
And for what it's worth, you may be very relieved to hear: The vast majority of men don't last over 5 minutes of continuous thrusting.
That doesn't mean you can't make love all night long... it just means that sawing away inside of her without stopping is not the right way to do it.
Now, with that said, I believe that a man should learn total control. You should be able to control your ejaculation virtually at will. The reason I believe this is because it is YOUR body. And just as we control our other body functions, just as we don't wet the bed as adults, just as we control fear when we must, and we don't cry when the doctor gives us our flu shot, this is one more area where a man should learn to master himself.
There are many techniques for lasting longer... some work better than others, and some work better for different individuals.
The grand-daddy of them all is known as the "baseball method", or the "distraction method", which basically means that you distract yourself by thinking about something else (like memorizing baseball statistics) while having sex.
This one has been around so long because it is reasonably effective. And it's worth learning and experimenting with because it does help to train your MIND to do what you want it to do... and, like I said, 99% of this skill is in your head.
And while it is not one of the more powerful techniques, it is effective enough to show you this: If you can normally last 30 seconds, and this technique gets you to 60 seconds, then you have just PROVEN to yourself that with practice and the right information, you could ultimately learn to go from 1 minute to 2, and from 2 to 4, and ultimately to hours.
But the main downside to this technique is that it is boring. It takes you out of the fun of sex. And it takes you out of being "present" in the moment with your girl... which, by the way, while allowing you last longer, will probably also make her feel like you are not very passionate nor very good in bed.
Ouch.
Fortunately there are many other, more powerful techniques.
I've written a lot on this subject and it frustrates me when some guy writes back and says, "hey Alex, I tried that thing you teach and it didn't work for me."
That's like a guy reading an article about how to snow board, falling down as he gets off the lift, and saying, "it didn't work."
If you have a serious issue with this, and you are ready to learn how to last as long as any woman can stand it, and you're willing to put in a little bit of practice, I've prepared a free video and free (yes, yes, it's actually free) downloadable strategy guide with all of the best techniques for you to start using right away.
Your welcome.
You can get both right here:
Last Longer In Bed: Total Ejaculation Domination
by Alex Allman, author of "Revolutionary Sex"
So there you are in bed with this beautiful girl and things are getting hotter by the second. You penetrate her and she gasps with pleasure... she starts wriggling her hips against your body... and she makes that soft moaning sound in your ear...
And it's just... too... damn... hot!
And just like that, it's over, nearly before it got started.
Sound familiar?
Just about every guy on Earth has been through that one...
Or sometimes you can go a bit longer... and she's getting very close to having the orgasm of her life... you can feel it building like the pressure behind the dams of New Orleans during Hurricane Katrina... She's digging her nails into your back and she manages to get the words out between panting breaths: "I'm almost there...!"
And that does it. Whoosh. It's over. Right... before... that orgasm of her life.
And if you think it's frustrating for YOU... Haaa! Yes, man, it is even more frustrating for her. Especially if it happens over and over again.
The worst part?
It probably WILL happen over and over again... because when it happens the first time, it shakes your confidence. You feel a certain level of anxiety the next time. You really want to impress her...
And guess what is the number one cause of ejaculating too soon?
If you said, "anxiety over ejaculating too soon," then you probably made more than just a lucky guess.
So look, I'm not going to lie to you. I know plenty of guys who have lost their woman over this kind of thing, and plenty of women who, after a lot of soul-searching, left a man that they really cared about because she just couldn't get what she needed sexually. It just made more sense to become "just friends".
The good news is that ANY man... and yes, I do mean ANY guy can learn how to last as long as he wants in the sack.
And while many men have written to me with the wrong-headed idea that their penis is just more sensitive than anyone else's is, the fact of the matter is that 99% of premature ejaculation is 100% in the head. It really does come down to that level of sexual anxiety.
There's also an entire other group of guys who think that they are ejaculating too soon... but actually last well above average... they just don't realize that it's okay to take a little break and change positions now and then. Sex is not a sprinter's event.
Relax. Take your time.
And if you have been making love for 30 minutes and your woman hasn't had an orgasm yet, it's not because you can't last long enough... it's because you aren't pushing her buttons in the right way. With the right sexual skills you can get her to orgasm far more easily and more frequently... WITHOUT having to learn to last longer.
In other words: You probably haven't read my book yet.
And for what it's worth, you may be very relieved to hear: The vast majority of men don't last over 5 minutes of continuous thrusting.
That doesn't mean you can't make love all night long... it just means that sawing away inside of her without stopping is not the right way to do it.
Now, with that said, I believe that a man should learn total control. You should be able to control your ejaculation virtually at will. The reason I believe this is because it is YOUR body. And just as we control our other body functions, just as we don't wet the bed as adults, just as we control fear when we must, and we don't cry when the doctor gives us our flu shot, this is one more area where a man should learn to master himself.
There are many techniques for lasting longer... some work better than others, and some work better for different individuals.
The grand-daddy of them all is known as the "baseball method", or the "distraction method", which basically means that you distract yourself by thinking about something else (like memorizing baseball statistics) while having sex.
This one has been around so long because it is reasonably effective. And it's worth learning and experimenting with because it does help to train your MIND to do what you want it to do... and, like I said, 99% of this skill is in your head.
And while it is not one of the more powerful techniques, it is effective enough to show you this: If you can normally last 30 seconds, and this technique gets you to 60 seconds, then you have just PROVEN to yourself that with practice and the right information, you could ultimately learn to go from 1 minute to 2, and from 2 to 4, and ultimately to hours.
But the main downside to this technique is that it is boring. It takes you out of the fun of sex. And it takes you out of being "present" in the moment with your girl... which, by the way, while allowing you last longer, will probably also make her feel like you are not very passionate nor very good in bed.
Ouch.
Fortunately there are many other, more powerful techniques.
I've written a lot on this subject and it frustrates me when some guy writes back and says, "hey Alex, I tried that thing you teach and it didn't work for me."
That's like a guy reading an article about how to snow board, falling down as he gets off the lift, and saying, "it didn't work."
If you have a serious issue with this, and you are ready to learn how to last as long as any woman can stand it, and you're willing to put in a little bit of practice, I've prepared a free video and free (yes, yes, it's actually free) downloadable strategy guide with all of the best techniques for you to start using right away.
Your welcome.
You can get both right here:
Last Longer In Bed: Total Ejaculation Domination
Monday, December 6, 2010
Why She Won't Tell You What She Wants in Bed
Women do want certain things in bed, mainly mind blowing sex and a deep connection to go with it. She won't tell you how to get there most of the time. A woman often fears how you will react of what you will think of her if she tells you of her deepest desires. It goes hand in hand with that fear of rejection, which I am sure you are all too familiar with.
She is probably fearful also that you won't take it well. If you are have been in a relationship or married for a while, we women already know to how men react to change. If all of a sudden we start wanting something different, we think you are going to get suspicious. We also are all too in tuned to your male ego. We don't want to hurt your feelings or rock the boat.
Then there is the woman who has been faking it forever and she is tired of it. She may not be faking orgasm, but she may be faking or lying about how great the sex is. If you have been together a long time, have you dared lately to ask her what she wants? If not, chances are good, you have a lot of room for improvement. You might be good, but you could probably be really great for her if you would put in the effort.
Women feel it's your place to make this move. We see a man that we have to lead as weak. We crave, desire a man to take our interests and needs in the bedroom to heart. The one thing that keeps us from telling you what we want in the bedroom may be the one thing that keeps you from digging into it. Fear of rejection.
If you think she may not be open to it, it's easier to just keep on doing what you are doing right? If you think she will also start to get suspicious, thinking you are wanting it elsewhere, again you may just decide to not rock the boat. Chances are, you really don't know how or where to start to take sex from good to great.
This is sad. We women really do want a man who knows exactly what to do to push our buttons and give us multiple orgasms and if you think your woman isn't capable or just doesn't enjoy sex, you are dead wrong, she is and she can enjoy sex. What she wants in bed is for you to be her ultimate lover.
It takes a brave and superior man to really dive into this subject and become the lover she always wished she had. I would venture to say the majority of women have not had this kind of lover and if she has, it was probably only once, twice at the most and it may not have been you. Something else we will never tell you.
We want you to take the lead, we want you to understand about Revolutionary Sex.
She is probably fearful also that you won't take it well. If you are have been in a relationship or married for a while, we women already know to how men react to change. If all of a sudden we start wanting something different, we think you are going to get suspicious. We also are all too in tuned to your male ego. We don't want to hurt your feelings or rock the boat.
Then there is the woman who has been faking it forever and she is tired of it. She may not be faking orgasm, but she may be faking or lying about how great the sex is. If you have been together a long time, have you dared lately to ask her what she wants? If not, chances are good, you have a lot of room for improvement. You might be good, but you could probably be really great for her if you would put in the effort.
Women feel it's your place to make this move. We see a man that we have to lead as weak. We crave, desire a man to take our interests and needs in the bedroom to heart. The one thing that keeps us from telling you what we want in the bedroom may be the one thing that keeps you from digging into it. Fear of rejection.
If you think she may not be open to it, it's easier to just keep on doing what you are doing right? If you think she will also start to get suspicious, thinking you are wanting it elsewhere, again you may just decide to not rock the boat. Chances are, you really don't know how or where to start to take sex from good to great.
This is sad. We women really do want a man who knows exactly what to do to push our buttons and give us multiple orgasms and if you think your woman isn't capable or just doesn't enjoy sex, you are dead wrong, she is and she can enjoy sex. What she wants in bed is for you to be her ultimate lover.
It takes a brave and superior man to really dive into this subject and become the lover she always wished she had. I would venture to say the majority of women have not had this kind of lover and if she has, it was probably only once, twice at the most and it may not have been you. Something else we will never tell you.
We want you to take the lead, we want you to understand about Revolutionary Sex.
Monday, November 29, 2010
What Do Women NOT Want In Bed
I am going to be real here. I have polled over 200 women about what they don't like in bed. It was pretty enlightening. It seems that my claim most men don't know what they don't know is pretty accurate. I am just going to list the top 20 complaints I got from women about their men in bed. I hope you don't fall into any of these. We really do want you to know though. We just don't want to tell you. We worry we will hurt your feelings or open a can of worms that will drive a wedge into the relationship. Do you really know what women want in bed or do you think you know?
1. Cindy says she can expect the same thing everytime. Her boyfriend fingers her to orgasm, then climbs on top and gets his. Same thing everytime. She is bored.
3. Lindsey said her guy will go down on her, get her almost there, but never finishes. She said he honestly doesn't know when she has an orgasm or not.
4. Tina said no foreplay at all. Her husband rubs on her a few minutes, maybe her back and hops on top.
5. Kayla says her guy thinks the moment she is wet, it's time to put it in. He assumes because she is wet, she is ready.
6. Roxie's guy gropes her roughly, she has tried to tell him to slow it down and be gentle, but he gets carried away with his own pleasure and doesn't pay her any attention.
7. Diane said her tits hurt like hell after sex. Her husband grabs them and kneads them much like biscuit dough. She has told him jokingly, but he still does it.
8. Betsy's guy fingers her a long time, but he doesn't get it right. He never seems to hit the spot, she has had a few orgasms by shear chance, but for the most part, it's just uncomfortable.
9. Jennifer says her guy of 3 years is always wanting a blow job. She doesn't mind, but wishes he was as enthusiastic when it came to going down on her.
10. Sarah dates a guy obsessed with entering her back door. She is against this, but he is constantly referring to it.
In summary, there were 16 women who were completely satisfied. The rest did not have orgasms everytime and were usually left frustrated. A few had never had an orgasm with their partners. Some after years could count them on one hand and it was rare to have a woman remark she could have a vaginal orgasm.
So what's going on? Is it communication? Some of this may be hard to believe, but from my own experience and that of my closest friends, I can tell you, it's pretty accurate. I dated a guy a year and never once had an orgasm with him. He did not know, he assumed I did. I dated another guy for 8 years and had 1 orgasm and I had to do most of the work to make that happen. I could go on and on. One of my best friends just cheated on her boyfriend. She had tried to tell him he wasn't doing it for her, but he got offended and defensive, which is why we don't tell you.
I have had in my lifetime 1 partner that got it and could hit it out the ball park and it had nothing to do with the size of his penis. One! Now there were a few that were really good, but great? No, just one. Sad.
So why aren't you guys doing more to find out what women want in bed? What's up with that. You think if it's not broke why fix it. You think it's good. What's wrong with taking good to great? Women can and want to take it to higher levels. We are built that way. We can orgasm more than once. We are reluctant to let go of the skillful lover. Is that you?
1. Cindy says she can expect the same thing everytime. Her boyfriend fingers her to orgasm, then climbs on top and gets his. Same thing everytime. She is bored.
3. Lindsey said her guy will go down on her, get her almost there, but never finishes. She said he honestly doesn't know when she has an orgasm or not.
4. Tina said no foreplay at all. Her husband rubs on her a few minutes, maybe her back and hops on top.
5. Kayla says her guy thinks the moment she is wet, it's time to put it in. He assumes because she is wet, she is ready.
6. Roxie's guy gropes her roughly, she has tried to tell him to slow it down and be gentle, but he gets carried away with his own pleasure and doesn't pay her any attention.
7. Diane said her tits hurt like hell after sex. Her husband grabs them and kneads them much like biscuit dough. She has told him jokingly, but he still does it.
8. Betsy's guy fingers her a long time, but he doesn't get it right. He never seems to hit the spot, she has had a few orgasms by shear chance, but for the most part, it's just uncomfortable.
9. Jennifer says her guy of 3 years is always wanting a blow job. She doesn't mind, but wishes he was as enthusiastic when it came to going down on her.
10. Sarah dates a guy obsessed with entering her back door. She is against this, but he is constantly referring to it.
In summary, there were 16 women who were completely satisfied. The rest did not have orgasms everytime and were usually left frustrated. A few had never had an orgasm with their partners. Some after years could count them on one hand and it was rare to have a woman remark she could have a vaginal orgasm.
So what's going on? Is it communication? Some of this may be hard to believe, but from my own experience and that of my closest friends, I can tell you, it's pretty accurate. I dated a guy a year and never once had an orgasm with him. He did not know, he assumed I did. I dated another guy for 8 years and had 1 orgasm and I had to do most of the work to make that happen. I could go on and on. One of my best friends just cheated on her boyfriend. She had tried to tell him he wasn't doing it for her, but he got offended and defensive, which is why we don't tell you.
I have had in my lifetime 1 partner that got it and could hit it out the ball park and it had nothing to do with the size of his penis. One! Now there were a few that were really good, but great? No, just one. Sad.
So why aren't you guys doing more to find out what women want in bed? What's up with that. You think if it's not broke why fix it. You think it's good. What's wrong with taking good to great? Women can and want to take it to higher levels. We are built that way. We can orgasm more than once. We are reluctant to let go of the skillful lover. Is that you?
Wednesday, November 24, 2010
Top 4 Things Not to Do With Women in Bed
1. Asking Her What Turns Her On
Talk to women any day and you will find their biggest complaint is communication, men just don't really know how. Asking her seems logical right? Wrong. We appreciate the effort, really we do, but for most of us, opening up like that is not an easy task. We want a man who leads, who pays attention and knows what to do. We do understand you can't read minds, but we know somewhere inside that if you pay really close attention to the signals of our body, you will learn what turns us on without asking.
If you just ask her "What turns you on?" you might get a good answer. She might even like it when you ask her. But there is a strong chance that, on some unconscious level, she will feel a weakness in you and be disappointed.
She will be less turned on by the sexual experience if she feels weakness. The key is to get her to open up and get her to show you without you asking.
2. Using Techniques to Please Her
Techniques are great, but again, a woman's orgasm really is directly connected with her brain. The problem with these techniques is that all women are different. What works on one, will not work on another. A woman can tell when you are just focused on a mastering a technique. This means one thing to her, you aren't focused on her but on what you are doing at the time. She then feels pressure to reward you for your efforts. We often fake orgasms at times like this just to get you to stop. It makes us very uncomfortable to have a man doing some robotic thing hoping to bring us to orgasm.
3. Not Understanding the Sexual Language of Women
Sexual communication is foreign to most men. Women give off all kinds of signals, but you aren't understanding her most of the time. Have you ever been going down on a woman and for some reason you feel she may be up there sleeping? Have you ever had a woman getting really excited and she pushed you away or stopped you? This is happening because again, you aren't paying attention and she is frustrated. If you can learn how to listen to a woman's body and really pay attention, she is capable of having an incredible sexual experience. Tons of signals are being sent out when a woman is close to orgasm. Men misinterpret them for many reason, one of which is he may be looking for the standard orgasm response. Screaming, moaning,what ever he has encountered before. Not all women are alike and I can't stress this enough. Some orgasm quietly and you have to pay attention to her breathing. Others thrash around. Some are still. It is critical to be able to read her sexual language and all women speak it differently.
4. Not Doing Anything To Fix It
The 4th and biggest mistake of all. If you don't do anything to fix it. Women will stay and remain faithful to you if you are an incredible lover, don't underestimate the power of it. If you aren't doing it, chances are somewhere out there is a man who will take the time and effort to take her to higher sexual levels.
Are you the best lover she ever had? Are you sure? You can be.
Talk to women any day and you will find their biggest complaint is communication, men just don't really know how. Asking her seems logical right? Wrong. We appreciate the effort, really we do, but for most of us, opening up like that is not an easy task. We want a man who leads, who pays attention and knows what to do. We do understand you can't read minds, but we know somewhere inside that if you pay really close attention to the signals of our body, you will learn what turns us on without asking.
If you just ask her "What turns you on?" you might get a good answer. She might even like it when you ask her. But there is a strong chance that, on some unconscious level, she will feel a weakness in you and be disappointed.
She will be less turned on by the sexual experience if she feels weakness. The key is to get her to open up and get her to show you without you asking.
2. Using Techniques to Please Her
Techniques are great, but again, a woman's orgasm really is directly connected with her brain. The problem with these techniques is that all women are different. What works on one, will not work on another. A woman can tell when you are just focused on a mastering a technique. This means one thing to her, you aren't focused on her but on what you are doing at the time. She then feels pressure to reward you for your efforts. We often fake orgasms at times like this just to get you to stop. It makes us very uncomfortable to have a man doing some robotic thing hoping to bring us to orgasm.
3. Not Understanding the Sexual Language of Women
Sexual communication is foreign to most men. Women give off all kinds of signals, but you aren't understanding her most of the time. Have you ever been going down on a woman and for some reason you feel she may be up there sleeping? Have you ever had a woman getting really excited and she pushed you away or stopped you? This is happening because again, you aren't paying attention and she is frustrated. If you can learn how to listen to a woman's body and really pay attention, she is capable of having an incredible sexual experience. Tons of signals are being sent out when a woman is close to orgasm. Men misinterpret them for many reason, one of which is he may be looking for the standard orgasm response. Screaming, moaning,what ever he has encountered before. Not all women are alike and I can't stress this enough. Some orgasm quietly and you have to pay attention to her breathing. Others thrash around. Some are still. It is critical to be able to read her sexual language and all women speak it differently.
4. Not Doing Anything To Fix It
The 4th and biggest mistake of all. If you don't do anything to fix it. Women will stay and remain faithful to you if you are an incredible lover, don't underestimate the power of it. If you aren't doing it, chances are somewhere out there is a man who will take the time and effort to take her to higher sexual levels.
Are you the best lover she ever had? Are you sure? You can be.
Monday, November 15, 2010
Do You Really Know if She Had an Orgasm
Most guys have watched porn in their lifetimes. Most I hope know that it is really an unrealistic image painted as to women in the bedroom. In porn, they scream, yell to you they are cuming, shout profanities etc...While some women may do this, it really isn't the norm.
I would say 95% of the men I have been with or my many clients have been with are clueless if they have had an orgasm or not. The majority of men spend a few minutes on foreplay and go straight for the playground. Now they may be considerate and just go to the playground to rub or lick and that's nice and all, but most women would rather you walk slowly to the playground, don't run.
All women are different. Some may scream, other women orgasm quietly. If a woman has just experienced a clitoral orgasm, touch there shortly after may be uncomfortable. If you can still touch her there and she doesn't push you away, she hasn't had an orgasm more than likely.
The biggest complaint I get from my female clients is how they will be so close to orgasm and then their partner stops doing what he was doing and moves to something else he thinks might please her. Ugghhh, this just kills us. Shows us you aren't paying attention.
Women are capable of multiple, very strong orgasms. Do you know how to take her to a higher sexual peak?
I would say 95% of the men I have been with or my many clients have been with are clueless if they have had an orgasm or not. The majority of men spend a few minutes on foreplay and go straight for the playground. Now they may be considerate and just go to the playground to rub or lick and that's nice and all, but most women would rather you walk slowly to the playground, don't run.
All women are different. Some may scream, other women orgasm quietly. If a woman has just experienced a clitoral orgasm, touch there shortly after may be uncomfortable. If you can still touch her there and she doesn't push you away, she hasn't had an orgasm more than likely.
The biggest complaint I get from my female clients is how they will be so close to orgasm and then their partner stops doing what he was doing and moves to something else he thinks might please her. Ugghhh, this just kills us. Shows us you aren't paying attention.
Women are capable of multiple, very strong orgasms. Do you know how to take her to a higher sexual peak?
Monday, November 1, 2010
Do Women Fantasize
Women fantasize about hot sex just as much as men do, trust me. We fantasize about all sorts of things, mainly a man doing or knowing to do certain things and I must add, for a long enough time to blow our minds.
Unfortunately, like most of your sexual fantasies, it rarely happens in real life. Most of us women have never had this kind the kind of sex we fantasize about and if we had, we can probably count it on one hand, maybe even one finger. The majority of women fantasize during masturbation. The great thing about masturbation is we cum every time in a matter of minutes if we choose. We want you to be able to do this to us, that is what we really want. Women fantasize about a man blowing her mind and loving every minute of it.
Sad though, we know most of you want to, so what is the problem? I think most of you really don't know how. We have to feel safe for one, we have to feel comfortable enough to share things with you without feeling like you will think we are way too much trouble to please. That really is one of our biggest fears and as you probably know, sex with a woman starts in her mind. If her head ain't in it, she ain't going to cum.
This should not discount skill and technique though. I have a few very skilled lovers, the thing is, they just weren't skilled long enough. They mistook my heavy breathing and wetness to mean I was there. Next thing you know the man is mounting and is done.
Have any of you considered that you can still touch us after you have had yours? Most think it is over. Try it, see what happens. Did you know that often that is the time when we are most aroused, especially if we haven't had our orgasm. Take her to the next level and chances are, you just might get aroused again and blow her mind. Do you know how many women fantasize after it's over wishing you would just touch them again, but are scared to tell you? They fear you will think they are a freak.
Women are capable of multiple orgasms. We really want you to take the time to learn how. Sex can be revolutionary if you are willing to learn. Take care of your woman. Be one of the few that gets how to blow a woman's mind in the bedroom.
Unfortunately, like most of your sexual fantasies, it rarely happens in real life. Most of us women have never had this kind the kind of sex we fantasize about and if we had, we can probably count it on one hand, maybe even one finger. The majority of women fantasize during masturbation. The great thing about masturbation is we cum every time in a matter of minutes if we choose. We want you to be able to do this to us, that is what we really want. Women fantasize about a man blowing her mind and loving every minute of it.
Sad though, we know most of you want to, so what is the problem? I think most of you really don't know how. We have to feel safe for one, we have to feel comfortable enough to share things with you without feeling like you will think we are way too much trouble to please. That really is one of our biggest fears and as you probably know, sex with a woman starts in her mind. If her head ain't in it, she ain't going to cum.
This should not discount skill and technique though. I have a few very skilled lovers, the thing is, they just weren't skilled long enough. They mistook my heavy breathing and wetness to mean I was there. Next thing you know the man is mounting and is done.
Have any of you considered that you can still touch us after you have had yours? Most think it is over. Try it, see what happens. Did you know that often that is the time when we are most aroused, especially if we haven't had our orgasm. Take her to the next level and chances are, you just might get aroused again and blow her mind. Do you know how many women fantasize after it's over wishing you would just touch them again, but are scared to tell you? They fear you will think they are a freak.
Women are capable of multiple orgasms. We really want you to take the time to learn how. Sex can be revolutionary if you are willing to learn. Take care of your woman. Be one of the few that gets how to blow a woman's mind in the bedroom.
Friday, September 10, 2010
Please a Woman in Bed
Ok guys some reality here. I know you are already pretty good, I mean she moans, her breathing is heavy and you think she might have came, but are you really sure? Women do fake it because they worry it's too much work for you to really make her orgasm like she wants to. This is so very common. It's hard for a lot of women to communicate what they really want in bed. It wouldn't hurt to ask her just so you know.
I talk to hundreds of women every day and very few of them are satisfied by their partners bedroom skills. Funny thing though they don't let the partner know this, they don't want to hurt his ego. True story, I have a friend who recently when having sex with her partner of two years started talking dirty, telling him what to do. Now she always wanted to do this, but what happened is he freaked. It wasn't her normal behavior. The sex stopped and the fight started. What happened here? No communication maybe. She had been holding back for two years.
One of the biggest mistakes I think men make is they think because the woman is soaking wet she is ready. He mounts her and thinks she is loving it. This is not the case. If you think she is ready, don't be so sure. To be safe continue with the stroking, licking and touching for at least 15 more minutes, if you really want to rock her world, do it for 30 more. Don't assume she is ready just because she is wet. Let her tell you when she is ready. To please a woman in bed, you need to pay attention to her body and how it responds to what you are doing.
Another annoying thing men do that women complain about is the breast fondling thing. A man will latch onto one breast and almost rub it raw or suck it to death. To most women this does not feel good. Rotate from one breast to the other, don't focus completely on the nipple. Jesus it kills us. Engage the entire breast. Kiss her shoulders and neck as well. Breast really aren't a huge turn on for most of us believe it or not.
Just a few tips for you guys. Thanks. For step by step techniques, click here.
I talk to hundreds of women every day and very few of them are satisfied by their partners bedroom skills. Funny thing though they don't let the partner know this, they don't want to hurt his ego. True story, I have a friend who recently when having sex with her partner of two years started talking dirty, telling him what to do. Now she always wanted to do this, but what happened is he freaked. It wasn't her normal behavior. The sex stopped and the fight started. What happened here? No communication maybe. She had been holding back for two years.
One of the biggest mistakes I think men make is they think because the woman is soaking wet she is ready. He mounts her and thinks she is loving it. This is not the case. If you think she is ready, don't be so sure. To be safe continue with the stroking, licking and touching for at least 15 more minutes, if you really want to rock her world, do it for 30 more. Don't assume she is ready just because she is wet. Let her tell you when she is ready. To please a woman in bed, you need to pay attention to her body and how it responds to what you are doing.
Another annoying thing men do that women complain about is the breast fondling thing. A man will latch onto one breast and almost rub it raw or suck it to death. To most women this does not feel good. Rotate from one breast to the other, don't focus completely on the nipple. Jesus it kills us. Engage the entire breast. Kiss her shoulders and neck as well. Breast really aren't a huge turn on for most of us believe it or not.
Just a few tips for you guys. Thanks. For step by step techniques, click here.
Sunday, September 5, 2010
Secrets to Give Her Mind Blowing Orgasms
All men like to think they are kings in the bedroom, maybe some are, but most really don't know. Its not really the man's fault, its the women for not telling them what they want, after all you guys aren't mind readers. We know what we like, but its uncomfortable to most women to open up and tell you. So what's the secret to make her orgasm?
I recently had an ex show up on my doorstep. He remarked how good he was in bed. I raised my eyebrows and said, now I am going to tell you the truth. Now since we are apart I felt I could do that. I told him that although he was not bad at all, it never happened for me. He did not take the time necessary to figure out what I liked, he just did what he thought all women liked. I liked him, so I did not complain, my mistake. Had he slowed down and just used a few good fingering techniques, I would have seen stars.
Most men offer a little foreplay, they think just because the woman is wet, aha, she is hot and ready. That's not how it works. Women have to be warmed up slowly. If you go straight for the spot before she is wet, it can be uncomfortable. Teasing is the best way to warm a woman up. Touch her everywhere, but leave the magic place alone, get her throbbing and aching. When you do touch her intimately, do so for just a short while, then stop. Do this over and over. Tease her mercilessly. Finger her, lick her softly, then stop. Giving her mind blowing orgasms often takes time and patience.
When a woman has been teased, she will be begging for your touch, whether its if you finger her, lick her, it does not matter as long as you do it with skill, she will orgasm fast and hard. Depending on how skilled you are, you just may get her to orgasm multiple times. Women really aren't that hard to please, we just need a man willing to forget what he thinks works and find out what really does.
Learn what women really like and what really drives them wild in bed. Turn your woman into your sex Goddess and have her begging for more over and over again.
Don't assume you know it all. I talk to women all the time. Often we are trying to spare your feelings. In my lifetime honestly, I have only met a couple of guys that got the job done, but many who thought they got it done and didn't. Don't be one of these guys. Learn how by clicking here.
I recently had an ex show up on my doorstep. He remarked how good he was in bed. I raised my eyebrows and said, now I am going to tell you the truth. Now since we are apart I felt I could do that. I told him that although he was not bad at all, it never happened for me. He did not take the time necessary to figure out what I liked, he just did what he thought all women liked. I liked him, so I did not complain, my mistake. Had he slowed down and just used a few good fingering techniques, I would have seen stars.
Most men offer a little foreplay, they think just because the woman is wet, aha, she is hot and ready. That's not how it works. Women have to be warmed up slowly. If you go straight for the spot before she is wet, it can be uncomfortable. Teasing is the best way to warm a woman up. Touch her everywhere, but leave the magic place alone, get her throbbing and aching. When you do touch her intimately, do so for just a short while, then stop. Do this over and over. Tease her mercilessly. Finger her, lick her softly, then stop. Giving her mind blowing orgasms often takes time and patience.
When a woman has been teased, she will be begging for your touch, whether its if you finger her, lick her, it does not matter as long as you do it with skill, she will orgasm fast and hard. Depending on how skilled you are, you just may get her to orgasm multiple times. Women really aren't that hard to please, we just need a man willing to forget what he thinks works and find out what really does.
Learn what women really like and what really drives them wild in bed. Turn your woman into your sex Goddess and have her begging for more over and over again.
Don't assume you know it all. I talk to women all the time. Often we are trying to spare your feelings. In my lifetime honestly, I have only met a couple of guys that got the job done, but many who thought they got it done and didn't. Don't be one of these guys. Learn how by clicking here.
Monday, August 30, 2010
Women Want a Man to Last Longer in Bed
If you can't last longer than a few minutes in bed, chances are good you are depriving your woman of a huge amount of sexual pleasure. Women are slower to warm up. If you are done in just minutes, I assure you, she just got started.
A woman can get on a roll during intercourse, but if you are ejaculating prematurely, you are not going to experience this with her and I am assuming you do want to. Nothing worse than having this magnificent hard inside one minute and next minute it is gone. Sigh, what a waste, she could really have enjoyed that. She wants you to last longer in bed.
If a woman is with a man who seems to have this issue, she will start missing the real deal. You may satisfy her in other ways, but nothing takes the place of a good hard screwing. Women like a man to last longer in bed, women want a man to last longer in bed. Women will find a man to last longer in bed.
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A woman can get on a roll during intercourse, but if you are ejaculating prematurely, you are not going to experience this with her and I am assuming you do want to. Nothing worse than having this magnificent hard inside one minute and next minute it is gone. Sigh, what a waste, she could really have enjoyed that. She wants you to last longer in bed.
If a woman is with a man who seems to have this issue, she will start missing the real deal. You may satisfy her in other ways, but nothing takes the place of a good hard screwing. Women like a man to last longer in bed, women want a man to last longer in bed. Women will find a man to last longer in bed.
You can last longer in bed, learn how quickly and easily with this high converting e-book
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Tuesday, February 2, 2010
Giving her Earth Shaking Orgasms
Did you know that 50% of women fake orgasms most of the time? Did you know that most men are clueless as to give a woman earth shattering orgasms in the bedroom? A lot of men think because the woman is wet, she is ready for the plunge. Its a proven fact that it takes a lot more for a woman to reach an orgasm than a man.
A woman has to feel comfortable, she has to know you want to please her and that you are willing to do what it takes. For instance, if the woman knows you are only going to use your tongue on her for 5 minutes and then stop, chances are, she has already accepted the fact she better be ready to fake it. If you take the plunge as soon as she is wet, she is not likely to reach orgasm.
Slow down, take your time and explore and tease. Touch her all over, kiss her all over. Have her throbbing and aching for direct contact. Run your hands and tongue gently all over her and she will be begging for your touch. The longer you tease her, the more intense and rapid her orgasm will come when you do make contact.
Once you get her begging for you for her release, have your techniques ready. You need to know where and how to touch her and how to locate her g-spot. Women are capable of having 3 types of orgasms and having multiple orgasms. Learn how to drive your woman wild and have her weak in the knees. Be the best lover she has ever had and give her earth shaking orgasms.
A woman has to feel comfortable, she has to know you want to please her and that you are willing to do what it takes. For instance, if the woman knows you are only going to use your tongue on her for 5 minutes and then stop, chances are, she has already accepted the fact she better be ready to fake it. If you take the plunge as soon as she is wet, she is not likely to reach orgasm.
Slow down, take your time and explore and tease. Touch her all over, kiss her all over. Have her throbbing and aching for direct contact. Run your hands and tongue gently all over her and she will be begging for your touch. The longer you tease her, the more intense and rapid her orgasm will come when you do make contact.
Once you get her begging for you for her release, have your techniques ready. You need to know where and how to touch her and how to locate her g-spot. Women are capable of having 3 types of orgasms and having multiple orgasms. Learn how to drive your woman wild and have her weak in the knees. Be the best lover she has ever had and give her earth shaking orgasms.
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