There are a lot of good men out there. They sincerely care if their partner gets pleasure from sex. They learn what works on their woman and they make sure they do it to bring her to orgasm. This is a good thing right? Yes, of course, but and there is a but, not if it becomes the way you go about sex each and every time. I call it the race to orgasm.
I know a lot of good men who complain that their woman is rarely in the mood for sex. Could that be because she feels the pressure of having that orgasm. Let me see if I can explain. The most obvious is that the sex may be too predictable and she is bored. The less obvious is the pressure feeling. In other words, when a man knows what works and he enters the bedroom with the intentions of doing this, she feels pressure to cum. The sexual experience starts out in her mind as she knows exactly what he is going to do, and she knows he is doing it to get to the end result. Her orgasm, then he goes on to get his. This kind of sex is usually over in a few minutes.
Most men already know that sex for a woman starts in the mind. They don't all unfortunately understand how complex this is. Women suffer from performance anxiety in an entirely different way than men do. Men strive to bring women to orgasm while women strive to orgasm for their men. This is a huge pressure on women, especially since a lot of women just don't reach orgasm that easily. Going into the bedroom with this in her mind is enough to create a trigger in her that causes her to not be in the mood. It's can create a sense of dread.
So that is where a lot of good men make a big mistake in bed. They unknowingly put the pressure on a woman to perform. How many men out there desire a screamer in bed? A lot. The screamer strokes his ego and makes him feel he is doing a good job. Women are under more pressure than a lot of men realize in bed. When women focus on trying to achieve orgasm it often has the reverse effect.
A woman's sexuality and sensuality are very different that a mans. I could give you many examples. One for instance is if a woman is in the middle of an orgasm and you stop doing what you are doing, it will stop, she just stops coming. That is a frustrating thing for a woman. A man on the other hand, once he starts coming, an earthquake won't stop it.
Do you really and I mean really understand a woman's sexuality?
The Secrets of Female Sexuality
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I know a lot of good men who complain that their woman is rarely in the mood for sex. Could that be because she feels the pressure of having that orgasm. Let me see if I can explain. The most obvious is that the sex may be too predictable and she is bored. The less obvious is the pressure feeling. In other words, when a man knows what works and he enters the bedroom with the intentions of doing this, she feels pressure to cum. The sexual experience starts out in her mind as she knows exactly what he is going to do, and she knows he is doing it to get to the end result. Her orgasm, then he goes on to get his. This kind of sex is usually over in a few minutes.
Most men already know that sex for a woman starts in the mind. They don't all unfortunately understand how complex this is. Women suffer from performance anxiety in an entirely different way than men do. Men strive to bring women to orgasm while women strive to orgasm for their men. This is a huge pressure on women, especially since a lot of women just don't reach orgasm that easily. Going into the bedroom with this in her mind is enough to create a trigger in her that causes her to not be in the mood. It's can create a sense of dread.
So that is where a lot of good men make a big mistake in bed. They unknowingly put the pressure on a woman to perform. How many men out there desire a screamer in bed? A lot. The screamer strokes his ego and makes him feel he is doing a good job. Women are under more pressure than a lot of men realize in bed. When women focus on trying to achieve orgasm it often has the reverse effect.
A woman's sexuality and sensuality are very different that a mans. I could give you many examples. One for instance is if a woman is in the middle of an orgasm and you stop doing what you are doing, it will stop, she just stops coming. That is a frustrating thing for a woman. A man on the other hand, once he starts coming, an earthquake won't stop it.
Do you really and I mean really understand a woman's sexuality?
The Secrets of Female Sexuality
.
What's a good way to approach this subject with a man?
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